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Wow! How did you get ahold of that article that was written directly to me? hahaha! The author was spot on. Thanks for posting, I'll bookmark it so I can refer to it often.
Wish I could hit my mom in the head with it, but she won't read it. She says she already lives with this everyday, she doesn't need other people's opinions.
I have them all right now, plus feeling a little sorry for myself.
Me too!! I was just thinking if I have to be in this condo another day watching reruns of House, The Burn or Bluebloods while hubbie dozes in his recliner I'm going to swallow his pain meds and go to sleep forever ( I wouldn't sense would prevail), just my pity party for me.
We moved from NJ to FL last August and I do not know a blessed soul here. In Feb he was diagnosed with stage 4 renal cell cancer with mets to liver, lung,hip and brain.
Family and friends back in NJ, I almost look forward to the doctors visits when I get to talk to other people.
Great article that hits the nails right on the head and I stumbled across it when I really needed it.
I can certainly identity with the article. Items 1-6 resonate with me. Item #7, not so much. REALLY! (Bad pun there)
The isolation I feel is profound.
And the solution we here is always, "You need to get out more." Yeah, right.
I loved the article suggesting we invite old friends over. They can't visit me without visiting my 90-year-old mother, too, and that isn't likely to be an attraction.
I feel the same way. It's hard to feel home-bound. I used to go to the gym but it's hard to motivate myself for even 30 minutes. I feel guilty being away.
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Originally Posted by Jukesgrrl
And the solution we here is always, "You need to get out more." Yeah, right.
I loved the article suggesting we invite old friends over. They can't visit me without visiting my 90-year-old mother, too, and that isn't likely to be an attraction.
I am going to try this on Friday. I have a couple of girlfriends who understand. They are the only ones who don't make me feel like a fish out of water. Right now my mom is too tired to spend more than a few minutes visiting.
I struggle with 1, 2 and 3. I sometimes think I would do so much better if only my mother really needed caregiving in the truest sense of the word, if her need for caregiving was truly brought about because she can't do for herself as opposed to doesn't want to do for herself.
And then I feel guilty because so many on here really are caregivers in the truest sense of the word and it makes me sound like a whiny baby who is feeling sorry for herself.
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