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For all of the people here saying she is dumb and get what she has coming, its not as easy as it seems. Its easy to judge when you've never been in this situation. IMO they are both victims. Chris of himself and Rhianna of....Chris. They both need serious counseling.
First of all who cares. These people that everyone THINKS they know are not really who they are. It is not uncommon to return after something like this. She isn't that old. Also we really don't know the whole story. I'm sure this isn't the first time and without good help it will not be the last. I experienced this and I do not feel that either of them are spokes people this this issues. The one that really could make a difference is Chris Brown. Who in the heck gets involved like Sean Puffy when this type of behavior is involved. Stay out of it , this isn't a patch a couple up situation. I think she needed to stay away and try and move on. I think if Chris Brown seeks out treatment to find out what issues he has and works on the anger mangement they could get together again. Tina Turner needs to speak with her. Her Movie Whats Love Got To Do With It is all about being hit , going back and pretending to be this couple that America wanted to see.
A lot of people are comparing this situation to Ike & Tina, but I don't think it is. Ike would beat Tina for any and every reason. "What time is it Ana Mae" "It's a quarter to 3, Ike" Slap.
With Chris & Rihanna, I think this is more a case of two immature people who make bad decisions and have serious control issues. If both of them were brought up in abusive homes - then they both need counseling. As much as people like to say she was the victim - I just don't believe she was sitting there, quietly and he started beating her. I think this was a fight that escalated out of control. IMO they both need help and they don't need to be together.
But once a man hit's you, that's it - no going back. He didn't just shove her he pounded on her - what if he had given her an unlucky blow to her head. You can't go back to what you were once he's done that to you and I'm sure he'll strike again.
Rihanna needs counseling but years of low self esteem (no matter how beautiful and successful you are) really can not be undone overnight.
Abusive people are drawn to those partners who will fill a role as a "victim" or "submissive". People with low self esteem are drawn to those who are (in their mind) strong and protective but in reality are dominating and possesive.
Even if Rihanna leaves Chris Brown and never pursues a relationship with him again; her next relationship may be more of the same or worse.
For the people that say to "leave them alone", "we don't know what really happened" and "let them work it out"; they really need to seek professional help separately. Chris Brown is not necessarily a bad person but he is a sick person who had the wrong modeling when it comes to how men should interact with women. This behavior CAN NOT be modified overnight, it can take years(if ever) for an abuser to truly "get" the reason why it was wrong to hit a woman.
i agree with "sweetkisses", they both need some very serious life changeing counseling. beating women is definitely not cool, not unless she turns into a vampire or whip out something bigger than yours or, you wake up and find shes got you handcuffed to the bed and is going through your wallet, or you're in the army and some other country allow's women in thier army as well, these are all exceptions
Ha! Now let's see if his fame gets him off the hook. Two felony counts.
Does that count as two strikes or one? Because if it counts at two the next is life isn't it? Of course I'm assuming he'll be convicted which may not happen.
Its abuse it doesn't matter if it is like Ike or not or if it was one time or 70. I think this wasn't the first time. She is making a huge mistake staying with him. One anger mangement class will not fix this issue. Why he gets anger is a mental health issue. He needs to understand that and having lived this he need to admit to it. When he does that he can then start moving forward. I heard she doesn't have to testify. What you are seeing now is the honeymoon state. I'm sorry , I will never do that again. I love you. If you leave me I'll kill myself. He is playing her and if he does get off people who support his music, concerts and movies need to walk away. He needs to learn one way or another.
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Brown charged with 2 Felonies!!
