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Originally Posted by alisonsims13
I have a serious crush on my youth pastor and I don't know what to do with myself. (I am a girl btw) I am deeply involved in my youth group and they need my help so I can't just leave the youth group all of a sudden. How do I keep myself from feeling these feelings? I know it is wrong and I don't want to feel like this. I can't help it though he is just so compassionate and kind and loving and dedicated as well as attractive and strong and it attracts me. I have been praying for God to take these feelings away because he is married and way older than me. I would never act on it but I just don't want to deal with it any more, it is driving me crazy! Please, what can I do to make these feelings go away!!??
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first and foremost he is not good enough for you . Its because he's already been swept up and fully conceded to someone else,
which means that another could never ever be the unique special person and would always be just a comparison because it becomes entwined in betray .
the one thing that could be true is the wife cares very deeply for him, -evidence, he is stable and cheerful and basically sounds to be strong.
If he's spoken for it is the union which is contributing to these things of value which are noticed and liked, so its not really him exactly which your fond of, it is the two which are 1 in the promise and seeing the positive.
It only appears to be something thought of which would be close to what is understood to be something to do with being a person, fulfillment and all that,
seeing a movie star can do the same thing but there is some distance and easier to manage for what it is, just a suggestion of what is close to the aspirations, that's all.
When things are thought about in general its always good to understand they are just emotions and all emotions need to get past the thinking, which is the reasoning in the idea to get some feedback.
Its an unexpected or suddenly with the emotions, the other thing is its always good to see people as 'just surviving with all the potential difficulties and fears , and in that regard the people who are part of community and so on a person can always say a prayer for them that things go along for them in positive ways. Anyway its only an opinion and what I would roughly say to a relative for example.
(Objectively not to do with OP but the topic, If a leader is trying to charm the girls in any way or a girl in anyway whatsoever he should be reported and fired without any delay or any mercy. Explanations not accepted, if the people get a thought well then that is a problem with the manner- Fired. Bye -Bye. Go change tires at a service station. new law under 21 all on camera, weed out the shifty criminals.
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