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When my oldest, who is almost 18 now, was 1.5 I swatted him on his butt to stop him from squirming while I changed his diaper. I was at the babysitters at the time and she called social services on me. They asked me what had happened and inspected my house and my child. He had bruises on him from the babysitters child biting him, you could see the teeth marks and tell they were not mine or my wifes. They saw no damage to his rear end or any other signs of any abuse. This scared me and for a while I left spanking up to my wife, which hardly ever happened because she usually hurt herself when doing it. My father convinced me that if I did not spank them and then explain why I spanked them they would become out of control when they grew up. I will admit that my kids are not the best behaved in the world but they thank me for spanking them when needed, for grounding them when needed and for explaining to them why I did either or both. They are not afraid of me or angry at me for what I had to do to bring them up the best I could. My soon to be 18 year old is in the National Guard and finishing his senior year of High School, he went to bootcamp between 11th and 12th grade years and will be in AIT after graduation. My 16 year old is very responsible and trustworthy. I have a 13 year old who is in his terrible adolecent times but we are coping and my six year old is spoiled rotten, but they all were at that age. Parenting is a hands on job and if you are not willing to do what is needed, in love, and without causing damage either mentally or physically then you shouldnt have become a parent to begin with.
I know children who are abused and the parents have never layed a hand on them. This abuse is neglect, the parents neglected to punish the child when needed and now the children are spoiled and expect to do whatever they want no matter what.
Spare the rod spoil the child seem right to me and my children are good kids due to my willingness to correct them as needed.
Of course it does. I have seen the opposite at McDonalds, Kmart and "The Nanny"
99% of discipline is using your mind
1% is using force
You hit = You teach them to hit.
It ain't rocket science.
I can make my child feel lower than snake dung using time out followed with the reason they went to time out.. followed by "I'm disappointed".. followed by "do you understand.. if so say "yes sir".. followed by.. "I love you".
None of the above done in the presence of other people.
WOW!! To each his/her own. Me, Betsey, I'm a spanking mommy! I spank anywhere! I'll spank in school, in church, in front of the police, in front of a judge, and the president if I ever needed to. My mantra in my home is: Give me a reason, and I'll be there!! All in love, that is.
WOW!! To each his/her own. Me, Betsey, I'm a spanking mommy! I spank anywhere! I'll spank in school, in church, in front of the police, in front of a judge, and the president if I ever needed to. My mantra in my home is: Give me a reason, and I'll be there!! All in love, that is.
I'm hip. When those "without direction" are screaming and throwing tantrums out in public, I get the feeling the parents are New Age softies.
99% of discipline is using your mind
1% is using force
You hit = You teach them to hit.
It ain't rocket science.
I can make my child feel lower than snake dung using time out followed with the reason they went to time out.. followed by "I'm disappointed".. followed by "do you understand.. if so say "yes sir".. followed by.. "I love you".
None of the above done in the presence of other people.
Ah yes.. If you don't strike your child or put chemicals in their mouth then you must be a softie. Interestingly enough we've been told on numerous occasions (restaurants, grocery stores etc) how wonderfully behaved our 2 year old is. Literally people coming up to us as we are leaving the restaurant to tell us.
I would say it takes more time and patience to have the ability not to strike a child or put chemicals in their mouth but in the end its worth it.
Maybe its just my child.. I doubt it though. My kid is no more special than anybody elses kid.
Quick question..
If hitting the kid.. or putting soap in their mouth works so well.. why do you have to do it over and over again?
Common sense and an evolution into the 21st century.
How about the Holy Bible? YES! children are just so well behaved these days in modern time.
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