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Ah yes.. If you don't strike your child or put chemicals in their mouth then you must be a softie. Interestingly enough we've been told on numerous occasions (restaurants, grocery stores etc) how wonderfully behaved our 2 year old is. Literally people coming up to us as we are leaving the restaurant to tell us.
I would say it takes more time and patience to have the ability not to strike a child or put chemicals in their mouth but in the end its worth it.
Maybe its just my child.. I doubt it though. My kid is no more special than anybody elses kid.
Quick question..
If hitting the kid.. or putting soap in their mouth works so well.. why do you have to do it over and over again?
A similar story from the "other camp" - best behaved kids in town because they fear wrath.
If "you have to do it over and over again" you're either not doing it right, or your kid's dumb.
Nothing wrong with a spanking when needed! The only thing that worked with one of mine was denying tv viewing. We had to disconnect the cord once! She doesn't disipline her kids and it really shows!
My goodness!! Whatever happened to a sense of humor, people? Lightened up already. I really don't stick soap in my kids mouth, I stick it in their eyes!! Safeguard.
My goodness!! Whatever happened to a sense of humor, people? Lightened up already. I really don't stick soap in my kids mouth, I stick it in their eyes!! Safeguard.
You hit = You teach them to hit."
I am sorry, but I do not believe that for one second! In fact, I think if a child's parents are too strict with them, they are more likely to be too lenient with their children.
There was a generation or two of children who were not disciplined, because of Dr. Spock's teachings, and we are still paying for that!
"Of course it does. I have seen the opposite at McDonalds, Kmart and "The Nanny" "
Not only have I seen them, I have certainly heard them!
All that chose to follow man's theories on discipline, instead of God's, can answer to God, not to me!
They will reap what they have sown.....
LOL! " how wonderfully behaved our 2 year old is" !!!! Boy! Have you a lot to learn!!!!
How about the Holy Bible? YES! children are just so well behaved these days in modern time.
How about it? Are you somehow indicating that because I have a well behaved child I should stop doing what I'm doing and take out a stick and whip the child instead?
A similar story from the "other camp" - best behaved kids in town because they fear wrath.
If "you have to do it over and over again" you're either not doing it right, or your kid's dumb.
Good. I prefer not to have my child fear me. Respect yes. Fear no. Big difference (of course just in my view).
As to doing it over and over again.. you might want to discuss with Betsy. Seems she/he (i don't know) has to do it all the time..
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WOW!! To each his/her own. Me, Betsey, I'm a spanking mommy! I spank anywhere! I'll spank in school, in church, in front of the police, in front of a judge, and the president if I ever needed to. My mantra in my home is: Give me a reason, and I'll be there!! All in love, that is.
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Ever had your mouth washed out with soap? I usually give my kids a choice: Ivory or Dove? White or pink?
LOL! " how wonderfully behaved our 2 year old is" !!!! Boy! Have you a lot to learn!!!!
Please do enlighten me what I have to learn? That so far my child is well behaved and disciplined and we accomplished that without resorting to hitting as being the first option or putting soap in their mouth.
I'd love to know what I'm missing as I do search for perfection.
Maybe when I punish the child I could tie the shoelaces together so the child trips. Or I can put them in dark room and turn off the lights. That'll get em!
I have never, repeat, never seen a parent whip, spank, beat a child out of love..Sorry, but they all looked and acted pretty angry to me..I used to feel like smacking a few parents at church though when they would grab up their small child who got restless during service, look around to make sure everyone knew that they had no intention of "sparing the rod" and ANGRILY marching to the back of the church.
I have smacked tiny hands for reaching for something I had cooking on the stove always followed by "no,no hurt you".They understood that Mommie was showing them that they were about to be hurt much worse than the warning I gave them..I found that a harsh word, look or simply ignoring them worked very well for punishment followed by a little cooling down and a talk and a hug..They were not perfect by a longshot and many times they made me so angry I had to force myself NOT to start spanking them, because it seemed the quickest way to end whatever was going on..On the very rare occasion that I felt spanking was the way to go, they knew how to make me laugh, they said my hand didn't hurt anyhow. I very very rarely left them with their dad, because he would lose his patience and temper and whip them with a belt
Please do enlighten me what I have to learn? That so far my child is well behaved and disciplined and we accomplished that without resorting to hitting as being the first option or putting soap in their mouth.
I'd love to know what I'm missing as I do search for perfection.
Maybe when I punish the child I could tie the shoelaces together so the child trips. Or I can put them in dark room and turn off the lights. That'll get em!
This is just plain ignorant! No one is saying that a child has to be disciplined when it has done no wrong!!!!!
I am afraid I will not be around when your daughter becomes a teenager. I would be interested in how well behaved she will be by then. Of course, if you are one of those parents that think your child cannot possibly do anything wrong, it will be someone else's fault if she does...
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..I used to feel like smacking a few parents at church though when they would grab up their small child who got restless during service, look around to make sure everyone knew that they had no intention of "sparing the rod" and ANGRILY marching to the back of the church.
I very very rarely left them with their dad, because he would lose his patience and temper and whip them with a belt
