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It is really sad we have to limit our choice because unfortunately we will be blamed for "risky behavior" if something happens.
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1. Get drunk, because you never know if someone might try to assault you when you’re under the influence.
7. Run alone at night, because we fear attackers.
13. Wear anything that will expose our breasts or remind men that we’re women, because that’s seen as an invitation for leers.
16. Engage in small talk with a man, because he may interpret it as an invitation to come on to us in a lecherous way.
21. Stay at a party or a show after our friends have gone home, because we don’t want to worry about being stranded in a potentially threatening situation.
23. Walk around late at night with headphones on and blasting music, because we’re afraid attackers might come up behind us.
26. Walk directly home, sometimes, if we’re afraid someone is following us. Instead, we’ll stop at a neighborhood bar and pretend we’re meeting someone.
It is really sad we have to limit our choice because unfortunately we will be blamed for "risky behavior" if something happens.
A lot of this is how I have always lived.
Not mentioned are things like always driving with one's car doors locked or making sure one's house key is not on the ring when turning over a key to the car mechanic.
Also not mentioned is spending some time at the range and getting a CCW so that you are safe getting home, as well as safe in your home, if some tweaker breaks in.
I do talk with and smile at men who are strangers, in appropriate situations. Walking to my car at 10 pm is not one of them.
I don't see most of these behaviors as limiting as much as staying safe.
And men can be victims of crime, too. I'd had to talk to several about not jogging or using an ATM in certain places after sunset.
It is really sad we have to limit our choice because unfortunately we will be blamed for "risky behavior" if something happens.
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It is definitely a sad state of affairs, but it's the truth and not likely to change. Men have theirs stuck right in front for the world to see, although it's covered. They don't have to be concerned about women attacking them because we don't want to. Ok, some do, but not most. Some men think it's their right to see what women have, even if women don't agree.
Back when I used to be out and around, I noticed men could enter a club and stand at the bar, gazing out at the tables as long as they wanted to. How long could a woman do that? She may not WANT to, but that's not the question. She can't. Men can lurk anywhere. Women can't. Do it anyway, no law against it. HA! Do such a think at peril. Why would any woman be willing to put up with the flak? I wouldn't. The thing is, a woman shouldn't have to, but it isn't going to change. That's just the way it is.
Eating in public can invite unwanted attention?? How so?
A friend recently recounted how a male co-worker suggested she try going out for a run after work. The Manhattan Bridge late at night, he said, was practically empty. It’s a great view. And besides, it’s cooler after the sun goes down — the perfect time to get in a run before bed. She should give it a try.
Who runs before going to bed? That's a recipe for insomnia, getting the body all hyped up like that.
They did forget to mention that women have to spend more money on rent by choosing "safe" neighborhoods. Most women can't allow themselves the wide options for a place to live that men have.
16. Engage in small talk with a man, because he may interpret it as an invitation to come on to us in a lecherous way.
omg--this one. Drives me absolutely bonkers. Or, I should say, it did. I don't go out anymore.
It's pretty much only a problem for women with boobs above a certain size. Or women who look like models. More average women have more freedom in some respects.
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