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Absolutely shocked somebody got away with such a disgusting obit. Glad to see others joined in the ridicule and offered their own obits in the same light.
Mind would read:
Extremely thin in her youth she gained weight after multiple surgeries and long recoveries.
Still she had a successful career as business owner and landscape designer. She was generally respected and liked even though she frequently was seen around town in dirty jeans and sweaty glow with dirt under her finger nails and mud on her shoes. She had her Alzheimer's stricken mother in her family home for more than 10 years but this made her grumpy and sometimes unsociable. She used to give wonderful parties but had to stop after her mother stripped down naked in the middle of a party because her favorite appetizer was gone. Besides that she was a good mother, a tolerant wife and lived a full life.
One of these days, I plan to write my own obit (leaving the date of death out, of course).
The older I get the less patience I have with the typical "Oh, he (she) was an angel in disguise, and NEVER did anything to annoy or hurt anyone!" even though the dead person was gunned down by the FBI in the midst of a drug bust gone wrong!
I am also tired of the euphemisms for DEAD: "He went home to his lord" or "He passed away after a brave fight against a dread disease" or whatever.
No, he DIED!
My obit will start "John M. (Jones) Smith is dead. He died on Feb. 29th, after being run down by a Pabst Blue Ribbon beer truck. He hated being called "Mister", and he will not be so referred to here..."
The reason for the extra name is that I was adopted, and I want my REAL name in the obit.
As for the OP obit, I see nothing wrong with it at all, if it is completely honest. In fact, there is a good chance it was written by the decedent. In that case, it could be considered her last wish, and should be scrupulously honored!
In any case, it is purely up to her family, and is not anybody else's business!
I was just wondering yesterday what I'll put in my mom's obit, or say at her funeral. IF there is either. She refuses to do any estate planning and says she has the money to pay for her own funeral But really, what do you say about someone who has been difficult, annoying, a burden to everyone around her from about age 50 on, who's only accomplishment is that she hoarded up her house with crap, seems to not care one bit about me, has never contacted me in my adult life unless she directly wanted something, ignored my in my childhood, made me feel bad for earning a college degree and tells me I'm going to hell? Really... what to you say?? Personally, I'm at the point where I don't even want to deal with the aftermath when she dies. And she has no other family. "Oh, she's dead? Thanks for letting me know. Do what you want with her".
I was just wondering yesterday what I'll put in my mom's obit, or say at her funeral. IF there is either. She refuses to do any estate planning and says she has the money to pay for her own funeral But really, what do you say about someone who has been difficult, annoying, a burden to everyone around her from about age 50 on, who's only accomplishment is that she hoarded up her house with crap, seems to not care one bit about me, has never contacted me in my adult life unless she directly wanted something, ignored my in my childhood, made me feel bad for earning a college degree and tells me I'm going to hell? Really... what to you say?? Personally, I'm at the point where I don't even want to deal with the aftermath when she dies. And she has no other family. "Oh, she's dead? Thanks for letting me know. Do what you want with her".
As for the OP obit, I see nothing wrong with it at all, if it is completely honest. In fact, there is a good chance it was written by the decedent. In that case, it could be considered her last wish, and should be scrupulously honored!
In any case, it is purely up to her family, and is not anybody else's business!
Her family didn't publish this idiocy. She was a world renowned author who sold tens of millions of books. This was written by the newspaper.
Good article here comparing this with the one they published for a male author.
Denverian, you keep quiet and let others handle it
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But really, what do you say about someone who has been difficult, annoying, a burden to everyone around her from about age 50 on, who's only accomplishment is that she hoarded up her house with crap, seems to not care one bit about me, has never contacted me in my adult life unless she directly wanted something, ignored my in my childhood, made me feel bad for earning a college degree and tells me I'm going to hell? Really... what to you say?? Personally, I'm at the point where I don't even want to deal with the aftermath when she dies. And she has no other family. "Oh, she's dead? Thanks for letting me know. Do what you want with her".
