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Out of curiosity, how many 4 year olds have you personally dealt with for extended periods of time?
Because that's just not how it works.
Two of them, each for one-year stretches (between when they were 3 and when they turned 5). And yes, my daughter has asked for my hand in marriage quite a few times. Each time, I tell her how much I love her, but sorry, I can only be married to her mother, no one else.
Two of them, each for one-year stretches (between when they were 3 and when they turned 5). And yes, my daughter has asked for my hand in marriage quite a few times. Each time, I tell her how much I love her, but sorry, I can only be married to her mother, no one else.
So, do you explain how socially inappropriate it is? Do you give her the option to have a parental commitment ceremony? Do you explain how adult males must never enter into a marital relationship with a child? So you explain that marriage can only occur between two consenting adults, usually for purposes of security and procreation? Of course not! Your daughter, when saying she will marry you when she grows up, or wanting to marry you now has no notion of what marriage actually is. She thinks it's a fancy party where two people who love one another in the most wholesome way possible get to be in princess clothes and people give them presents. Oh, and there's cake! What kid wouldn't want that?
Look, we all feel how we feel. I guess I shouldn't judge. I still see no downside to this, and I don't understand objections. I don't mean to disrespect, so I hope nobody will misunderstand. In my heart, I know I would have done the same, so I'm likely projecting.
Two of them, each for one-year stretches (between when they were 3 and when they turned 5). And yes, my daughter has asked for my hand in marriage quite a few times. Each time, I tell her how much I love her, but sorry, I can only be married to her mother, no one else.
That's not really a relevant comparison to this story though. Our 5 yr old son says all the time he wants to marry my wife, and we tell him he can't because she's his mommy, and she's already married to me. But if she were a nurse and this situation presented itself, there is no way in hell she'd try and deny the little boys request and explain why it's not possible. You just don't do that.
So, do you explain how socially inappropriate it is? Do you give her the option to have a parental commitment ceremony? Do you explain how adult males must never enter into a marital relationship with a child? So you explain that marriage can only occur between two consenting adults, usually for purposes of security and procreation? Of course not!
Of course not. I realize that she has no conception of what marriage really is. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to indulge her in that particular fantasy, either.
Look, I don't want to blow this out of proportion. In terms of things to get upset about, this doesn't even crack the top 1,000. As I've said before, I firmly believe that the nurse's heart was in the right place, and he had the purest of intentions. It's simply not the way I would have handled the situation, that's all.
Of course not. I realize that she has no conception of what marriage really is. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to indulge her in that particular fantasy, either.
Look, I don't want to blow this out of proportion. In terms of things to get upset about, this doesn't even crack the top 1,000. As I've said before, I firmly believe that the nurse's heart was in the right place, and he had the purest of intentions. It's simply not the way I would have handled the situation, that's all.
Me either, and I raised five healthy and emotionally stable kids.
Of course not. I realize that she has no conception of what marriage really is. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to indulge her in that particular fantasy, either.
Look, I don't want to blow this out of proportion. In terms of things to get upset about, this doesn't even crack the top 1,000. As I've said before, I firmly believe that the nurse's heart was in the right place, and he had the purest of intentions. It's simply not the way I would have handled the situation, that's all.
I agree, and I'm pretty much done with this discussion. It's apparent to me that one person's "ew" is another person's "awww" and that there's no accounting for that, and no persuading to be done either way.
Of course not. I realize that she has no conception of what marriage really is. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to indulge her in that particular fantasy, either.
Look, I don't want to blow this out of proportion. In terms of things to get upset about, this doesn't even crack the top 1,000. As I've said before, I firmly believe that the nurse's heart was in the right place, and he had the purest of intentions. It's simply not the way I would have handled the situation, that's all.
This sums it up for me as well.
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