Additional cost of someone moving in with you (insurance, contractor, expenses)

[qingguy]

What do others think the monthly cost is of having an adult move in with you? I'm thinking here in Vegas including room, electric, gas, water, food is probably around $200 per month. Then in my case he doesn't have a license or a car so we're his sole transportation that probably adds another $100 to it.

Wifes 25 yo son moved to Vegas and asked if he could stay with us for a couple of months so of course we said yes. Well a couple of months have turned into a year and working the single part time job he has there's no way he's in a position to move out. Also he seems to have no intention in finding full time work or getting another part time job. Just burns me. The other thing that burns me is I'm the sole bread winner so I feel a bit taken advantage of. Now him moving in has created no financial hardship for us, we're very comfortable, however, enough of the freeloading with no solid plan for moving out.

So my intention is to tell him and his mother the free ride is over either move out or pay your way here.

Sorry for the rambling rant, just a bit frustrated. So back to my original question, what do you think monthly cost of an adult moving in with you is?

[EA]

Part time job, no car? Boy, he's ambitious.

[longton52]

Well ....if you're initiating a discussion with this forum, instead of with your wife, I'd say the cost might be your marriage.

You have the annual bills......add them up, divide by 12 months, then divide by 3 people. Add for car and food.

But won't this approach make him even more broke, and therefore less likely to move out?
Off like a bandaid I say. Give him 90 days notice; out by Jan 1. That gives him time to find another job, earn more money and find an apt.

[qingguy]

Originally Posted by EA

Part time job, no car? Boy, he's ambitious.

Ugh, don't get me started . . .

Originally Posted by longton52

Well ....if you're initiating a discussion with this forum, instead of with your wife, I'd say the cost might be your marriage.

You have the annual bills......add them up, divide by 12 months, then divide by 3 people. Add for car and food.

But won't this approach make him even more broke, and therefore less likely to move out?
Off like a bandaid I say. Give him 90 days notice; out by Jan 1. That gives him time to find another job, earn more money and find an apt.

Had the conversation with the wife and we don't get very far on this topic. There's a reason he's 25, living at home and working a part-time job if you catch my drift. Sometimes handing your kid everything they ask for while growing-up and not teaching the value of money or hard work backfires on yourself and the kid.

I thought about your calculation but it seems high because some of the bills, say electricity would only go down marginally if he moved out. Food, maybe not.

[BBMW]

How much pressure are you willing to put in your relationship with your wife in order to get the kid out the door?

[utsci]

Does this person have any skill set? Any education beyond high school? Mechanically inclined or any other talent, besides video gaming?

As a parent of a 23 year old I would say that unless the person is making a valid attempt (paying tuition, doing an internship) at moving forward, then the three of you living in the same house is just that, three adults sharing the resources. Therefore I would split things three ways...and he should be paying for the gas he uses in your vehicle. If you are including him on your auto insurance then he should be paying the additional that it is costing on the policy.

I can tell you from my daughter's roommate experience the general cost of things...rent is anywhere from $300-500, water is about $25, electricity/gas is $75, food is at least $150 (that is what SNAP or food stamps would get them, which is not really eating "well")...so you're looking at about $650 plus the car use.

I believe this person is choosing the path of least resistance...mom. Until the 2 of you form a united front there's not really much you can do. Under the circumstances I would go out of my way to find a job situation that he considers too good to turn down. I also know one couple who resorted to making the living situation less than pleasant by having some home repairs done, telling the contractor it was fine to start at 7am...with loud power tools, turning off the electricity and water, etc. The construction went on for a few months and then the "houseguest" found other accomodations. If he is not motivated at all, then you might have a lifelong houseguest.

[Caltovegas]

$500 bucks. Do some research to see what the initial cost are to get in an apartment and in six months give him the $3000 and send him on his way. I hear the casino's are hiring people at $14-17 an hour. Yes confirmed by two people who have been hired for porters and house keeping.

Have him go to Job Search | one search. all jobs. Indeed.com and search las Vegas casino's.

[stan4]

If you are going to go the "pay rent" way instead of nutting up and tossing the loafer out, then charge him rent commensurate to the local going rates. Not just what you imagine it costs you.

[ohhboy]

Very cold-hearted op. Its not fair you dont support others.............................lol.

[WVREDLEG]

Buy him out.

Find him a room to rent near a bus line or that part-time job, far from your home. Give him $$ for a month of living expenses and personally close the deal on the rent to ensure the money is going to its intended purpose. Give him a bus pass with $$ on the account, give him local supermarket gift cards instead of cash for groceries. If you pay for his cell phone, cut it loose and hand him a "go-phone" and a few recharge cards.

Sell it as a fresh new start and not "kicking you out". It is going to cost you upfront, but it gives you and your wife a fresh start as well--just a suggestion on how to avoid backing your wife into a corner.

Once his stuff is out of the guest room, you can change the locks and get on with living.