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Every time my wife and I have a talk with a stranger, he or she always staring at my wife when we talk, very little eye contact with me. So one day I asked my wife is it just me or she felt it too? She said yes, she thinks I look serious even when I tried to smile, but that's me, trying to be myself. I can't change nature unless I have plastic surgery.
It also doesn't help that my wife has a baby face, looks very friendly and natural smiles even when doesn't try. Oh well.
This could be anything from newspaper subscription to solar power panels, etc while walking the mall or grocery store.
Do you feel slighted if they seem to approach everyone walking by but somehow skip you. Do you look at yourself and your clothes to see what threw them off to not even approach you. Or maybe you throw off a vibe that you're unapproachable or have that certain scowl that says "hey don't bother me"
Or do you just brush it off and thank god they didn't try to talk to you?
Thoughts
No. I feel like a pimp when that happens. I try to send non-verbal signals to tell them not to bother me with their crap.
Why in the world would that bother anyone? It doesn't bother me in the least who talks to whom and honestly I prefer not to be bothered while I'm shopping
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One side of the coin is maybe they look at you and think you're either cheap or not worthy of making a pitch to. Maybe unapproachable. I don't want to be known as unapproachable.
One side of the coin is maybe they look at you and think you're either cheap or not worthy of making a pitch to. Maybe unapproachable. I don't want to be known as unapproachable.
That's the idea. If I could manage hostile, I'd do that.
Generally, I feel relieved if they ignore me although sometimes I'll chat with them about their job. It's curious to find out the different interactions they have with the stream of general humanity wandering past them.
In the case of walking past people in malls or (heaven forbid) the Cable subscription salespeople at Walmart (I hate that)...if they fasten onto someone else and I can blow past, I feel like I've dodged a bullet and I feel sorry for the poor sucker that got stopped. I zip past with great relief. Those people's opinion of me means nothing, they are there to be obstacles to my progress and waste my time, and try to persuade me to waste my money as well.
What did annoy me once, is that I needed shoes for a military ball, and I was prepared to spend significant money on them...much as it's not my thing and I'd rather not deal with it, the occasion called for it and I was prepared to meet that particular costuming challenge. So I went into a couple of shoe stores in the mall. At one of them, I did in fact have questions about getting a kind of shoe in a different size, but it was impossible to get the attention of a salesperson, who had attached herself to a better dressed woman customer. I may dress plainly, but I had a pocket full of cash and an intention to spend it, and I took it elsewhere. When I made my purchase at a competing store nearby, I made certain to tell the very nice lady that helped me, that I would have spent my money already if I hadn't been completely ignored by the personnel at that other store, who judged me on my casual attire.
People often read books by covers, and often enough it's their loss.
I only get ticked if it's a crack addict offering to sell something valuable for pennies on the dollar in order to get his next fix. I hate it when I miss out on hot deals like that.
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