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God's honest truth there...we spend so much time earlier in our lives wanting to "please" men, look the way they want us to look, but at some point, if we're lucky, we realize that means absolutely nothing...love should be deeper than that anyway, and we know it, and we begin to take time for ourselves for our health and just FOR ourselves and not to please anyone else. Also all the other comments are true -- time, taking fitness for granted in earlier years, etc.
Agree. In my young single days (as opposed to my current ones ) was the girl who wound up with a guy who would "beat me up" about my weight. That tactic did not help our relationship. It put pressure on me I couldn't deal with, because I was so caught up in pleasing my partner. I would tend to gain weight from eating and I couldn't stick with the discipline of the gym. It was rebellion, I guess. It harmed me more than it harmed him.
Don't get me wrong, I want to be attractive to men. It's just that the kind of man I want in my life would definitely appreciate my being fit, but would respond to it as a wonderful bonus in a relationship he has found with a woman who can engage his heart, his mind, his emotions, also.
The guy who just wants a mute, docile hot chick on his arm would not be the guy for me.
And those of us who are WAY over 30 can tell you young'uns that the fitness craze is fairly recent. In the 1970s very few people went to gyms unless they were boxers or body-builders. Jogging was a brandy-new phenomenon to the point where people who were out running were yelled at from car windows and laughed at by most people. It wasn't until the 80s that exercise places really started opening up and marketing toward women. Most of us gave it a shot, woke up with painfully sore muscles, and let our memberships run out without going back after a few visits.
We were thin. We could eat Burger King three times a week and never gain a pound. And no one had ever yet heard the word "cholesterol", but that's another story.
OP have you ever thought that maybe your gym's membership fees are prohibitive to someone in their 20's? I think you will find younger individuals at gym's like Plant Fitness with $10-20/mo fees vs. a $60-70/mo. gym. Just my theory. I drive past one of the $20/mo. gyms and everyone in there looks young, whereas I feel like a I'm one of the younger people at my gym.
OP have you ever thought that maybe your gym's membership fees are prohibitive to someone in their 20's?
Bodyweight squats, Push ups, pull ups, sit ups, running are all free. If someone has Internet they can YouTube lots of different ways to get in shape without a gym.
I was assuming you were doing your judging at your own gym. If you read my post, I wasn't making excuses, just saying these 20-somethings might not be getting fit in the same place you do.
Why do women wait until they are older (30's and beyond) to get fit and healthy ?
p.s. Skinny is not considered fit. Being lean with muscles is.
Why are you assuming they wait until 30+ to get "fit and healthy"? There are plenty of college women going to university gyms, post-college women in community gyms. Where do you live?
OP have you ever thought that maybe your gym's membership fees are prohibitive to someone in their 20's? I think you will find younger individuals at gym's like Plant Fitness with $10-20/mo fees vs. a $60-70/mo. gym. Just my theory. I drive past one of the $20/mo. gyms and everyone in there looks young, whereas I feel like a I'm one of the younger people at my gym.
I think it's the opposite. I'm 54 and go to Planet Fatness not just because it's cheap but because there are a lot of people my age or older and heavier or as out of shape as I am. The younger ones who are going to the gym primarily to wave their booty around or who are seriously into shaping their bodies go to the pricier places like NY Sports Clubs. Older people who are merely trying to lose weight/tone/remain limber won't use the strenuous classes and don't crave the visibility that the younger crowd wants.
Maybe some younger women are so busy juggling jobs, long commutes, housework, cooking and raising kids that they don't have the time, the money or the energy to spend on self-improvement.
True. And then there's the other 99%.
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) was the girl who wound up with a guy who would "beat me up" about my weight. That tactic did not help our relationship. It put pressure on me I couldn't deal with, because I was so caught up in pleasing my partner. I would tend to gain weight from eating and I couldn't stick with the discipline of the gym. It was rebellion, I guess. It harmed me more than it harmed him.
