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Originally Posted by LexWest
My two cents:
While women don't want men harassing them, to a certain extent, women do want to be noticed. Even if they "dress for themselves," subconsciously, they know certain styles will appeal to men; and will take some satisfaction if they're noticed by them. For example, while I prefer a moderate heel (2-3 inches), when I walk into a mall with 4+ inch heels and leggings, men might likely stare or look twice. While I'm not expecting men these men to approach me, or be seriously interested, it's a good feeling when a man that's working stopped what he was doing while walking by; and even if another man from across the room watches as well. It's a way of assures women that they not only look good, but men find their look attractive.
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I reckon I am around the wrong kind of women then.
These women I am around seem to be looking for drama... pointless and mootless drama.
If I happened to noticed something different about somebody like her gaining a little weight and it was noticeable, and I was not looking at her for any inordinate length of time either: it was just in passing, I am condemned as sexually harrassing that person.
I had not said anything to anyone what I had noticed, but just from that small observance, it is sexual harrassment: and I am a virgin.
Seems like the kind of women I am around are adolescent in behaviour except they are down right serious about taking that incident and making every other look as if I was a looking and lusting look.
God knows and I know if I was looking and lusting, but these women dress to attract and yet they act like I have to have permission to even look at them, and I am not even going out of my way to look at them. Weird.
Hence the thread.
It's probably because I am not attractive or handsome and look like an average joe, but I talk with an accent only because I am hard of hearing: deaf in my left ear and tinnitus in my right ear as I do noticed that some people act like they have to listen and discern what I am saying sometimes because I do have a lazy type speech. I have listned to my speech on an audio tape and even a video tape and I hate the way I talk and act.
But I don't see how or why the women are taking this route with me unless slander has prejudiced the women to see me as a sexual harrasser so that even a look of observance regarding their appearance is construed as sexual harrassment.
Sometimes I think what happened at the Salem Witch's trial, can happen in other ways in present day America.
I wonder if my false accusers knew if I was still a virgin, waiting for my "Rebecca" as Isaac was matched up by God with his wife? Probably not, but then again, nowadays, I doubt anyone would believe that a man cares about being chaste and a virgin till marriage, thanks to the media.
As it is, I can pretty much forget about finding a wife and even a friend thanks to my enemies that hate me without a cause. I am thankful that Jesus Christ is with me always as I am trusting Him to help me be His friend in following Him as I know He is My Friend in that He gave up His life for me as there is no greater love than that.
Thanks to all that have replied:
I had wondered about the hypocrisey of my accusers, but I reckoned somebody gave me the scarlet letter A or something that others find it all to readily to believe the worst about me.
Jesus did say to expect persecution and even those that falsely accuse me to just forgive them and love them by making myself scarce to prevent any further unnecessary drama.
I don't have a problem with the way women dress, but I do think that by the way some women dress, if they want a man to love her as a person and not just for her body, they should cultivate more towards friendship rather than the romantic appeal that usually caters to sexuality or even the pride of life. This is me saying this, seeing how divorce is so readily available in America these days.
Seems they ought to change the wedding ceremony:
"For better and not for worse: for richer and not for poorer: and through sickness but not the ones that makes you look gross....till divorce or death do us part."
Hardly a wedding ceremony by those words and yet most marriages wind up as if it is that way.
Sorry... I digress.
I reckon I am to be content with Jesus' help, and not be concern about the "offended" women when they are probably just ego-tripping at my expense.
Thanks for adding your two cents.