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Old 04-01-2012, 01:04 AM
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Is it strange to become so attached to the region you have lived your whole life that you cannot leave it without a deep home sickness, near-constant anxiety and feeling of being out of place?

There's a lot I dislike about New England, well maybe not a lot but I like to complain, lol. For some reason I cannot be anywhere else for very long before becoming overwhelmed with homesickness, I can't ever see myself overcoming this. I just feel completely out of place anywhere else, for some reason this includes Connecticut and RI...Anyone else have the same problem? I'm asking because I turned down a great job opportunity for these reasons and it has nothing to do with family or friends.
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Old 04-01-2012, 03:02 PM
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I guess you could call it that. Are you that uncomfortable with visiting or only the idea of moving elsewhere? Anyone would be nervous about moving elsewhere, really, and people certainly turn down jobs because they don't want to move.
Could be you are just one of those people who has a comfort zone and it's not worth the trouble to get out of it. "Severe homesickness" does sound like frank anxiety, which could really impede your life, whether you move or not, so you might want to look into your feelings as an anxiety disorder, if it troubles you. Best wishes.
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Old 04-01-2012, 06:59 PM
Location: Northern California
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For me, it was not a feeling that came quickly. It took probably fifteen years before the homesickness really set in. But now that it's here, oh boy! I see it as finally being old enough to know what I want and as it turns out I want to go home. Home for me is Florida. But now I live in California with a wonderful husband and two kids and he kind of feels the way you do but about his native California (: He's lived here his whole life and he looks so sad when I try to talk about moving, it kills me. So no, i think your feeling is very common and you should take it seriously, respect what is home for you. No job is worth leaving a place you love!
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Old 04-02-2012, 12:36 AM
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I think it is completely understandable! My wife and I are both from California originally and we constantly dream of moving back. I absolutely cannot get the smell of the San Diego seaside air out of my mind, for me there is nothing that can compare. There truly is something maybe psychological about an attachment to your "home" that can be beyond logic.
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Old 04-02-2012, 01:34 AM
Location: Austin, Texas
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There are probably more people than you would imagine that will never, or would never, consider moving away from "home." Leaving the familiar for the unfamiliar is bound to cause sadness and/or anxiety. Everyone handles that differently.

I also think it depends on what age you are when you leave home and how far away you are from home. If you experience a drastic change in culture or weather it will most likely be harder to adjust and you might never feel "at home."

I didn't move away from the area I grew up in when I was 30. I now consider the city I raised my own kids in to be "home." I have always wanted to live on the opposite coast though and plan to do that soon. I know I will be homesick, even though there are lots of things about "home" that bug me right now. I also know that I have to give it a try. If I were to remain homesick to the point of it interfering with my everyday life I know that I can always go home. I would rather try and fail then never to have tried at all. Besides I really do believe that "home"is where you heart is.
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Old 04-02-2012, 02:19 AM
Location: Canada
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I left my home region and it was a very tough adjustment. I think this is quite normal, although I've come to adjust to my adopted home.
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Old 04-02-2012, 08:06 AM
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We've moved a lot, basically on the East Coast but are thinking of going somewhere new.

None of these moves have done very much for us. We seem to be in a holding pattern. Maybe we need a huge move to shake things up.
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