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They wake up, get into everything they can, the fridge the pantry and completely destroy the house because they know their mother is asleep. She pulls 16 hour shifts and barely gets any sleep because the 2 year old wakes up before she even pulls in the driveway (seemingly sensing her presence) and stays up all night refusing to lay down. And they wake up early, no matter how late they go to sleep or if they don't nap mid-day and DESTROY EVERYTHING THEY KNOW THEY ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE. What to do????? I'm just the live in nanny. What can we do to break them of this bad behavior? Has anyone else dealt with this? Please in desperate need of help. So tired of waking up to a destroyed house, this morning the 4 year old spread pancake mix all around his room, the 2 year old spread mustard all over the dining room. HELP HELP HELP this isn't even the half of it sometimes it's 5 times worse!!!
It's my job to watch them when she's working. It's the days she is off that I take my break... and the house is destroyed.
Didn't mean to post this in grandparents, but I didn't see it as a bad thing i figured grandparents would have more experience.
The 2 year old usually sleeps with the mom I don't really have much say other than what I suggest :/ When she works 16 hours I'm up at 6 and I keep the house from being destroyed.
Nothing is going to help except supervision. A 2 and 4 year old shouldn't be given free range while the adults are sleeping. How that happens is up to you and your employer to work out.
The mother needs parenting lessons. Find another job because the mother doesn't have a clue that what she is doing is not in the best interest of the child. Keep in mind that if you are in the house, even though you are "off duty", being aware of the situation and something happening that requires CPS to come in and investigate that you may be putting yourself in a legally uncomfortable position. Something bad is going to happen, someone hurt or dead leaving kids that age to roam free in the house without supervision.
First off, you don't know the full situation. If I'd known the people of this forum were just going to give me negative criticism instead of helpful advice I would have never posted. She's a great mother, she's just beat from working a stressful job and coming home to a toddler that wakes up in the middle of the night. So unless you have some helpful advice instead of judgemental criticism without knowing the full situation, I suggest you don't take the time out of your life to post negativity "AnywhereElse". Saying that she needs parenting lessons without even knowing her character tells me that you don't have a clue what you're talking about. Anyone have some HELPFUL advice? I sleep upstairs so I don't always hear them even though I'm a light sleeper. I'm going to start waking up every day at 6am but what I'm asking is if anyone has dealt with this type of behavior before and has anything HELPFUL to say.
Someone needs to get up when the kids get up. If she is too tired, then she needs to arrange for you or someone else to do it.
When my kids were about 5 and 3, they could get up and turn on the TV and let us sleep a while longer. They never ever did anything even close to what you describe. If they had, I obviously wouldn't have left them alone .
I suspect these kids are either crying our for attention, or that they've had so little supervision and discipline in their short lives, they don't know any better.
Does the mom do anything to try to change this? Does she punish them?
Yes they get in trouble, and have to clean up their mess but it doesn't seem to work. We'll keep trying. Thankyou for you for the helpful advice!
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What can we do to break them of this bad behavior? Has anyone else dealt with this? Please in desperate need of help. So tired of waking up to a destroyed house, this morning the 4 year old spread pancake mix all around his room, the 2 year old spread mustard all over the dining room. HELP HELP HELP this isn't even the half of it sometimes it's 5 times worse!!! 
