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Old 11-24-2016, 05:51 PM
 
Location: Sonoran Desert, AZ
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Inkpoe - My condolences on the loss of your father.
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Old 12-07-2016, 12:51 AM
 
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It's been a little over 2 weeks now. It doesn't really feel... "real". It's been kinda crappy, with my (maternal) grandmother's passing, an issue from a particular neighbor, my dog getting struck, and overall just having to sort through my dad's things. He's kept a lot of papers. Random ones at that, like old bills, taxes from 2002... but we can't find the more recent ones-- I think he actually shredded those. I was wondering why he'd shred the more recent ones but not 2002. At least, the kids had fun shredding tons of papers.



That last night of my dad's life, I left my brother at the hospital with my dad and came home. I was feeling completely ragged and burnt out. But my middle child was still up, waiting for me. She's 4 1/2 years old. My husband had explained to her in the simplest terms that my dad wasn't coming back and she wanted to confirm it with me. So, Grandpa's body isn't working anymore? He's going "up"? Yes, he is. And she says: "So... He's going to College, then?" Odd, but we laughed.

I had to ask my uncle for the name of the funeral home that my family used for generations. Before I left to the hospital, I had asked my husband to Kik me the address. He was flabbergasted. The funeral home was actually located on College Street. I don't know, it did weirded us out a bit. I do wonder if my dad's spirit visited my daughter and told her "College" to make sure that we chose the right final place for him. My daughter doesn't know why she brought up the College thing. I know some will just dismiss it as a coincidence. But I do wonder. My sister and I do think he was there to meet my grandmother because she died just after we laid him in the ground.

Sorry, I'm just rambling on.
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Old 12-07-2016, 02:29 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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That's okay, Inkpoe. That is why and what we do here. I got goosebumps reading about "College". Who knows,could be. I'm sorry about your Grandma but I am sure your Dad was one of many to meet her.

Peace to you and yours.
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Old 12-09-2016, 06:10 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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It's been a little over 2 weeks now. It doesn't really feel... "real". It's been kinda crappy, with my (maternal) grandmother's passing, an issue from a particular neighbor, my dog getting struck, and overall just having to sort through my dad's things. He's kept a lot of papers. Random ones at that, like old bills, taxes from 2002... but we can't find the more recent ones-- I think he actually shredded those. I was wondering why he'd shred the more recent ones but not 2002. At least, the kids had fun shredding tons of papers.



That last night of my dad's life, I left my brother at the hospital with my dad and came home. I was feeling completely ragged and burnt out. But my middle child was still up, waiting for me. She's 4 1/2 years old. My husband had explained to her in the simplest terms that my dad wasn't coming back and she wanted to confirm it with me. So, Grandpa's body isn't working anymore? He's going "up"? Yes, he is. And she says: "So... He's going to College, then?" Odd, but we laughed.

I had to ask my uncle for the name of the funeral home that my family used for generations. Before I left to the hospital, I had asked my husband to Kik me the address. He was flabbergasted. The funeral home was actually located on College Street. I don't know, it did weirded us out a bit. I do wonder if my dad's spirit visited my daughter and told her "College" to make sure that we chose the right final place for him. My daughter doesn't know why she brought up the College thing. I know some will just dismiss it as a coincidence. But I do wonder. My sister and I do think he was there to meet my grandmother because she died just after we laid him in the ground.

Sorry, I'm just rambling on.
It is very possible he told her. My grandfather died when I was 10 & he came to me to tell me everything was OK. 10 minutes later we got the call that he was gone. I think that is one of the reasons I don't fear death.
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