Divorce group - support - *SEE MOD NOTE IN SECOND POST BEFORE POSTING

[greatblueheron]

When I was going through a divorce many years ago, I looked for books or literature on the subject and found very little. Now I believe there are more books on the subject but nothing beats an interpersonal relationship with those going through it, especially for the first time.

A local divorce support group helped me over the rough spots...such as what's next, how to cope with overwhelming change, how to tell children, when to get a lawyer, etc.

Most of the time we supported each other telling our stories, thereby gaining acceptance and understanding.

Just thought I'd open that avenue for anyone, male or female, currently in the process of divorce. It can be a sad and lonely time but it helps to share with others.

Tell your stories here.

[harry chickpea]

Acting in my capacity as moderator of this forum:

Interesting thread idea. Many times the grief of loss in a divorce has direct comparison to the death of a person. The "death" in this case is of the marriage or couplehood. I am concerned that the anger of divorces and perceived unfairness of the partner not contaminate this forum. The same standards required of other posts in the forum must apply, no denigration, approaching with a sense of compassion, empathy for the loss and the process of recovery. This forum is a respite for people who hurt, where they are met with support and not judgment and are expected not to judge.


I'm not sure that the newly divorced can keep the emotional balance required to write about their open wounds without blaming, but lets give it a try. It is best if people can police themselves. If this doesn't work or a more rancorous or complete thread on divorce is desired, my guess is that it would work within limits in the relationships forum.

[tamiznluv]

Oh, my goodness, gbh. Getting too tame in here? No, I am not laughing at the subject, I was divorced twice before I married my late hubby. Mmmnh, mmmnh, still would not be able to be totally civil, even though they were in '74 and '95. Too much manure. Good luck!!

[greatblueheron]

Well, I just put this out there as I had no one to turn to when going through divorce after 23 yrs marriage until the support grp.

No, this is not a place for spouse bashing...

more to get and give info in case anyone finds themselves overwhelmed.