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Under no circumstances would I enter into a relationship with a man who is in this country illegally, or involved in any unlawful behavior. My ex is a legal immigrant, and at no time was he in this country illegally. As a matter of fact, he loathes illegal immigration. I’ve tried to get him to join our discussions, but he said he would probably get banned after a few posts.
but i have to add...
that maybe i have already dated someone in that situation and havent noticed.
i dont really check my mates for papers after all.
i also want to add that i would not choose to be in that relationship, but if i fell for the person and found out after the fact that they were in a situation of undocumented-ness... i dont think i would end the relationship.
but i have to add...
that maybe i have already dated someone in that situation and havent noticed.
i dont really check my mates for papers after all.
i also want to add that i would not choose to be in that relationship, but if i fell for the person and found out after the fact that they were in a situation of undocumented-ness... i dont think i would end the relationship.
I realize it would be hard to fall in love, only to learn the person is illegal. But, I would have to end the relationship. I would also question his motives.
I realize it would be hard to fall in love, only to learn the person is illegal. But, I would have to end the relationship. I would also question his motives.
What if you learn that the person was an illegal at some point but he is now a U.S. citizen will you end the relationship them?
What about not just a spouse relationship, will you end a relationship with a friend/coworker/the spouse of a friend if you learned that they were at some point illegal aliens?
What about other crimes? Will you terminate a relationship with someone who got caught using a fake ID to gain entry to a club (ID theft)? What if they didn't get caught but it comes up in conversation at some point? What if they were involved in a hit and run? Or if at some point in their lives got a arrested for anything?
Where do you draw the line and get of you righteous horse? And would you consider it normal for someone to end a relationship with you (romantic or not) after finding out that you did something illegal? Ran a stop sign, drove over the speed limit? Refilled your parking meter over the allowed time?
No, why? Because in most cases they are probably looking for a free ride into being a US citizen. The number of divorces after the allotted 'year" or what ever that number was is extremely high. On top of free social services they will get to tap you for alimony too.
its 3 years, if you dont even know that, i dont trust what ever stat you wish to pass off as valid.
what is that percentage of marriages that dissolve after citizenship is attained anyways? and how can you prove that was the motivating factor in the break up. could be spousal abuse. adultery. irreconcialable differences.
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Originally Posted by 1AngryTaxPayer
No, why? Because in most cases they are probably looking for a free ride into being a US citizen. The number of divorces after the allotted 'year" or what ever that number was is extremely high. On top of free social services they will get to tap you for alimony too.
Did you find her aunt physically attractive enough that you would have dated her if she was in the U.S legally ?
I felt that she was very attractive. Too bad that she was also an illegal.
Even if I found out after we formed a relationship that she were an illegal I would have ended it. A cheat is a cheat.
No, why? Because in most cases they are probably looking for a free ride into being a US citizen. The number of divorces after the allotted 'year" or what ever that number was is extremely high. On top of free social services they will get to tap you for alimony too.
There are a number of reasons it's not a good idea. Yes, they may be after the green card and pressure the citizen into a marriage that isn't going to work. The other thing is the reverse, if you really love the illegal, you'd be willing to go home with them if they had to go and so if you have other reasons to remain here, then getting involved with anyone from another country isn't such a good idea.
Also mixed marriages with foreign citizens often have problems that are not foreseen -- I know a man married to a legal German woman, and after their children were born, she began to wish they could return to live in Germany so their children could know her family and hometown. He didn't want to live there.
What if you learn that the person was an illegal at some point but he is now a U.S. citizen will you end the relationship them?
What about not just a spouse relationship, will you end a relationship with a friend/coworker/the spouse of a friend if you learned that they were at some point illegal aliens?
What about other crimes? Will you terminate a relationship with someone who got caught using a fake ID to gain entry to a club (ID theft)? What if they didn't get caught but it comes up in conversation at some point? What if they were involved in a hit and run? Or if at some point in their lives got a arrested for anything?
Where do you draw the line and get of you righteous horse? And would you consider it normal for someone to end a relationship with you (romantic or not) after finding out that you did something illegal? Ran a stop sign, drove over the speed limit? Refilled your parking meter over the allowed time?
There are some things I will not compromise, and honesty and integrity are at the top of my list. A deceitful person cannot be trusted; and I can’t maintain a relationship with anyone I cannot trust.
If believing in the rule of law places me on a “righteous horse,” then. . . . giddyup! We have all made mistakes in life. However, I have never done anything criminal, and choose not to associate with those who do. I have met a couple of guys through the years who admitted to being incarcerated. I have nothing in common with an ex-con; so why would I want to establish a relationship? Furthermore, what could he offer me? I also had lunch with a guy who admitted to being an “escort.” He thought he was God’s gift to women, and couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t date him. He was nauseating. I’m sorry, but that’s not my cup of tea.
I’m not being judgmental, but they simply don’t meet my standards. Would I have a platonic relationship with an ex-con? It would depend on his crime. If he was incarcerated due to possession (without intent to distribute) weed, that would be different from someone incarcerated due to rape, murder, robbery, or something of that nature.
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