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I know how this feels, I recently quit my job after being backed into a corner for similar reasons... the people I worked with always saw me as an outsider because I took a job that one of them wanted... then they loved to start rumors about me doing something wrong... I was accused of doing something that I could justify as right, but because I was always in the "spotlight" of wrongdoing, I was never heard for the truth, just accused of what they wanted to believe. The problem is, now I can't find work in my field because there are the "circles". I might as well have a felony conviction or two on my record because I can't find anything in my field... The other problem is, when I submit any resume, the first thing checked is my name, and there is a registered sex offender (pedophile no-less) with the same name and similar DOB... I've seriously contemplated suicide over this whole mess because I can't lose my house, wife, child over this whole jobless issue.
elgusano's post about relocating might be your answer. I know that cities and counties in Florida are desperate for new police officers. I would suggest you first appeal your firing so there is a record of your side to the story.
JsCherac, I know exactly what you're going through. I graduated nursing school in May, passed my boards the first time and got a job in a high-level NICU in a Pediatric Hospital in Philadelphia. I got fired 5 months into the job due to lack of ability to organize. The facts were, I got overwhelmed by the high-level intensive care area, straight out of school and tended to get emotional a lot. While I've learned from that experience, how can I prove that to potential employers? It is getting scary, and what place is going to hire someone who has a "fire" on their record, even as an RN?
JsCherac, I know exactly what you're going through. I graduated nursing school in May, passed my boards the first time and got a job in a high-level NICU in a Pediatric Hospital in Philadelphia. I got fired 5 months into the job due to lack of ability to organize. The facts were, I got overwhelmed by the high-level intensive care area, straight out of school and tended to get emotional a lot. While I've learned from that experience, how can I prove that to potential employers? It is getting scary, and what place is going to hire someone who has a "fire" on their record, even as an RN?
If you read EVERYTHING you will see nurses are supposedly needed EVERYWHERE. Maybe you need to see that was not your destiny (to stay at that job). Maybe your services are needed elsewhere--in a small town, in a new place.
People get fired. Don't let it stop you from doing what you can do.
The problem is, now I can't find work in my field because there are the "circles". I might as well have a felony conviction or two on my record because I can't find anything in my field... The other problem is, when I submit any resume, the first thing checked is my name, and there is a registered sex offender (pedophile no-less) with the same name and similar DOB... I've seriously contemplated suicide over this whole mess because I can't lose my house, wife, child over this whole jobless issue.
I hear a lot of CAN'Ts, how about what we CAN DO!. Be pro-active. Tell the prospective employer, don't mix me up with that Joe Blow that is similar to me on the sex offender data base. Let them know you think, you care. Don't wait to see if it happens, make sure it don't. I hear people all the time waiting to see if their destiny is going to be good or bad. If you know there is a possibility of a problem, prevent it from happening. Suicide, and you say you can't lose your house, wife and child? How hipocrytical can you get, that's not only losing them, but making them feel responsible for you running away.
Look for solutions, not excuses. You got a problem, ok, everybody got em, you aint the first, and won't be the last. Anybody can fall down, real character of a person is can he/she get up?
The last post is right on target. You unfortunately worked with people who were unprofessional and defocused onto someone who does things right. I truely understand your issue at your last job, because healthcare is full of those dysfunctional environments. I've seen too many places in healthcare be rittled with silo's vs teams, combined with people who have no concept of what a team is, how to foster one and catch people doing things right vs wrong. In healthcare, this is usually due to some in positions way over there heads and no business foundation. Often, one's environment is a reflection of upper management. You're better off not rubbing elbows with that caliber of people, even though it doesn't feel good now. Be confident and upfront about your situation. It sounds like you do not have to explain nor say your sorry to anyone. What happened to you sounds unfair, but it does not take away who you are or what you have achieved in your job. Spin what you have accomplished and can do for your next employer. If the issues of others come up, it sounds like you exited the situation for a more functional environment. If people are slandering you or defaming your character, there are legal was to address them that are very effective. If this is the case, I would nail these people hard with a law suit. It's funny how they will cower and quiet down. They have never been held accountable for their behavior and thus why they continue.
It's really unfortunate that good people have to rub elbows with such a low caliber of co workers. Retrospectively, you will find your situation and " firing" as a blessing. Those same people will now turn on one another, as the good people leave or are asked to leave. Trust me, I saw this happen in a company I was with. Once the good left, and they could not replace them, as the new hires left within 9 mths too, as they saw the dysfunction, as good people usually do, those left began to behave in the same way with each other. Today, they are still miserable human beings that are still there as they can not go any where else.
Get some support somewhere so you can sort how you feel and gain some feedback from another. While tough, this too shall pass and persistance is the key. In the big picture, what is really important is you family.
Co -workers like those from your past are a waste of time. Learn from your situation and keep your chin up. Your family needs you.
Join the military. They might make you an officer. I did 24 years as a Law Enforcement Specialist in the US Air Force. My son has been in a year now and is stationed in England.
Join the military. They might make you an officer. I did 24 years as a Law Enforcement Specialist in the US Air Force. My son has been in a year now and is stationed in England.
Excellent post that more people that think they have no options, but have a degree, should take a look at...
I am so proud of everyone on this forum!!! On most forums, the people who respond are soooo very ugly, and they clown and berate the person who opens up their problem, so publicly, simply because noone will know who they are. All of these responses are so positive, so helpful, and so concerned. You all should be very proud of yourselves for taking the time and having the heart, to actually "help" your fellowman and not kick him when he is down!
Take civil service exams- local, state, federal.
A co-worker of mine dearly wanted to get on a police force around Boston, and had political contacts in his town due to his late father's, uh, job with the Mob. He has not been able to get anything. He has always wanted to move to Dallas for housing costs and weather, and there was an ad in the paper for Dallas P.D. interviewing in Boston for recruits.
He didn't even try. Something about not wanting to ruin his son's life (son being 19 and dug in here in Boston). I said he should try and he could always turn them down if they accepted him. He didn't do it. I don't understand.
Regarding small towns, I concur that there's no reason they'd be hurting for people, either. I live in a small town outside Boston and there are, I think, five full-time officers. A neighbor of mine got a bachelor's in criminal justice from a very good college, and his brother is one of the five officers. Still nothing happening.
I think relocating makes great sense if there work there, or the department(s) there are looking. It's tough everywhere for everything, and that includes nursing (although that's not as tough as other fields, it's not the free-form party it used to be. My job is hiring new grads because they're cheap. I worry about my extensive experience and higher salary).
It's tough everywhere. Keep pitching.
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If you know there is a possibility of a problem, prevent it from happening. Suicide, and you say you can't lose your house, wife and child? How hipocrytical can you get, that's not only losing them, but making them feel responsible for you running away. 
Keep the faith
