i am clinically depressed... and have other mental health issues..
i lived in new york.. in abeautiful brownestone.. but after being diagnosed with cancer my family didn't understnd why i didn't return to my hometown... i sadly took that as their wanting to be supportive..
boy was i wrong..
my triggers are my family... extremely prejudiced; homophobic;
gossipy to the point they don't care if you hear them.and down right cruel to me because i don't share ther veiws..
and i was ostricized, to the point they didn't speak to me for about a year..
because i have dated men, but am more attracted to women.. and have had great relationship with both..
i was oo happpy in new york
my sister brought the most pain....stopped speaking to me for a YEAR after the sept 11 attacks.. just cut me off.. i never knew why... and never heard from her after... she never called..her daughter told me why.. because my sister hates ny, and never thought i should raise a child there..
my daughter was born there... even though because of the area we lived in was one of the best..-Park Slope Brooklyn..(google it.. top choice of places to live in Brooklyn !!!) my sister never thought i should be there.. she hated ny...i love it because as an artist/performer.. it fed my spirit and soul..
we had a spacious brownstone.. A gorgeous tree lined street... great school my daughter attended... and we soo enjoyed all the museums, parks; broadway shows and most everything..
people called us the smile family..we were super happy all the time !! always laughing and smiling...
i spoke to my sister about disapearing for a year ... saying "i told you to move.. then sept 11th happened.. so you got what you deserved !!!
" who says that???" and depite our differences before i moved back.i thought things had changed.. this is not the worst !!! i cannot begin to tell you what i am going through..
mentally it has taken it's toll.. i was hospitalized twice because i couldn't handle it.. my sister told everyone, evne though i asked her to keep t private.. now i get called the "crazy" one in the family..
i have a daughter.. she comes first....
my mom died last sunday.. and she was the only one who accepted me as i was..
well she is gone.. NO reason what so ever to stay.... and dealing with her death has been so devastating i am at my worst depression ever..
yet i NEED to stay well for my kid..
does anyone out there understand this...
i am not running.. this is for my survival..
and anyone who suffers with depression or mental health issues can understand better..
i am on disibility and finances are okay.. i want to move back to NY. even though my daughter says she doesn't want to.. even though she loves visitng.. she doesn't want us to end up in apt that is too busy with traffic.. i would make sure that wouldn't happen..the outskirts in new jersey; connecticut; long island are suburban.. some of new jersey is..
yet i respect her.. she is almost 14 now..i fear she will be messed up if we move to NY... so i am concidering burbank california... any where but here !!i just know i have to LEAVE..
i starting packing last night.. never slept.. i am giving my apt my notice today..
i think.. i am scared...what if things don't work out..even though deep down i know life will be better than here..
do you think i am making a bad choice by leaving???
any suggestions ??
i can't take it anymore.. waaaay too painful !!!
thank you in advance