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I also think the reason you're not "getting" White girls is because you let them know you're only interested in "hooking up" --- whether verbally or by your actions.
When I was younger, I HATED being approached by Indian guys because they were so skeevy and letting you know they just wanted sex. You would practically have to punch them dead in the face for them to get the message. Yes, I know that not ALL Indian guys are like that but you obviously are.
Like I said in my last post, you'd be much better off and a lot happier if you just went out and got yourself a hooker.
It's not your "self esteem" or "depression" that's your problem ---- you're a sleeze just looking to bang a girl. Disgusting.
ya sure but when White guys and Black guys do it they are just players and you welcome them with open arms. SMH @ women.
wait?
you want me to buy you flowers, treat you like a queen, and then have you use me as you run off with these so called sleazebags and bad boys? believe me, I am not stupid.
I have dated latin and mixed race girls before and I have had success with women, just not White women because down south interracial doesn't happen.
But I am guessing you live in either Canada or the UK, would not want to be in either of those countries where women hate me because of the color of my skin.
but none of those fulfill me, I don't want common interests and all that, I just want to hook up with girls I find attractive and that is it. maybe it is because I am young but I just find no satisfaction in common interests and all that.
culturally I am an American but I fear traveling to newer areas because I feel that I would never get to show the world who I really am because of my skin color and ethnic appearance.
I have a teenage son, and because of that, I do believe I understand your quest. My son does not take any advice from me in the romance department.....if he did, he would be doing much better in this department right now.
Maybe you will be more open to my advise. Here it is:
If you really want something as badly as you do, you will tend to obsess over it, and that will make it less likely that you will achieve your goal. What you need to do is try to avoid dating Caucasian girls for at least two months. This has to be your personal quest. Have fun with any other ethnicity, but DO NOT DATE CAUCASIAN for at least two months. Be serious about this. Go to clubs, and have fun, but always remember your two month assignment.
You will actually appear more attractive to any woman, if you don't seem needy.....if you try to avoid them, they will be more likely to pursue YOU. So.....why not make it a rule to date non-Caucasian women only for a certain period of time. See what happens.....
Good luck to you! Believe me, I know how hard it is to be a young guy (my son is very open with me).
ya sure but when White guys and Black guys do it they are just players and you welcome them with open arms. SMH @ women.
wait?
you want me to buy you flowers, treat you like a queen, and then have you use me as you run off with these so called sleazebags and bad boys? believe me, I am not stupid.
I have dated latin and mixed race girls before and I have had success with women, just not White women because down south interracial doesn't happen.
But I am guessing you live in either Canada or the UK, would not want to be in either of those countries where women hate me because of the color of my skin.
What are you talking about??? No self-respecting woman "likes" when a guy is a sleeze or a player (same thing).
If you want to DATE a woman, yes, you must treat her like a queen.
If you're only looking to bang a woman, go get yourself a hooker.
No, I don't live in the UK or Canada. I live in NY where lots of interracial dating takes place. I have dated men of various ethnicities, including Black, Hispanic, Indian, Arabic.
The only ones I have found to be completely repulsive are the ones who think all White women are easy and try to grope all over you or tell you straight out they want to get laid. Those guys? I don't even talk to.
You're the one making it known you're only out to get laid. Again, if that's what you're looking for, go pay for a hooker.
That is good seduction advice, one that a lot of people can benefit from. Only problem is I have never dated a White girl and I have already tried it. issue is my area, like I live in the deep south where White women do not even touch foreigners, they see them as subhuman in a way.
What I have found really makes me relax is if I talk about this more. Talk about Indian men that someone may know who have had a lot of success dating White women or areas of the world where Indian men can date attractive White girls if they have their stuff together (financially and looks wise).
His problem is lust and not being able to concuer that specific target group. I suppose that could make one depressed. But when ones only reason for wanting to date white gals is to get laid and doesn't really care about anything else, one can't expect a great deal of sympathy. I suggest he find a teen or college forum to discuss this on.
Reference Asian guys and black gals dating, the percentage of interracial couples is growing in every category and will continue to do so. It might depend on the specific white woman with regard to her trouble dating in or out of her race.
Maybe you didn't know it, gals don't like guys like this;
What he says: "I was just thinking about you, and got you these roses."
What he really means: (a.) "The girl selling them on the corner was a real babe, I had to get her number somehow" and (b) "See I'm not a sleaze, now can we have sex."
Or this later on;
What he says: " I need you, will you marry me?"
What he really means: "Both my roommates have moved out, the place is a mess, all my clothes are now a sickly green, and there is no more peanut butter."
but none of those fulfill me, I don't want common interests and all that, I just want to hook up with girls I find attractive and that is it. maybe it is because I am young but I just find no satisfaction in common interests and all that.
culturally I am an American but I fear traveling to newer areas because I feel that I would never get to show the world who I really am because of my skin color and ethnic appearance.
This is at the moment your ONLY PROBLEM. You may be surprised to find that a lot of women of all races want more than just casual sex.
Until you are ready to look for a real relationship you are going to continue to be unfulfilled and depressed.
most young girls my age are not in relationships, they are casually hooking up no problems
am I one of those dudes that is going to use a white girl for sex and marry an indian girl? no
I want to hook up with, get laid by, have relationships with, and be in long term relationships with girls who are white and attractive but feel that even if I fix the things I can fix my race will stop me from doing so because White girls have been fed the stereotypes that all Indian men are undesirable and it isn't good to date them.
His problem is lust and not being able to concuer that specific target group. I suppose that could make one depressed. But when ones only reason for wanting to date white gals is to get laid and doesn't really care about anything else, one can't expect a great deal of sympathy. I suggest he find a teen or college forum to discuss this on.
Reference Asian guys and black gals dating, the percentage of interracial couples is growing in every category and will continue to do so. It might depend on the specific white woman with regard to her trouble dating in or out of her race.
Maybe you didn't know it, gals don't like guys like this;
What he says: "I was just thinking about you, and got you these roses."
What he really means: (a.) "The girl selling them on the corner was a real babe, I had to get her number somehow" and (b) "See I'm not a sleaze, now can we have sex."
Or this later on;
What he says: " I need you, will you marry me?"
What he really means: "Both my roommates have moved out, the place is a mess, all my clothes are now a sickly green, and there is no more peanut butter."
Well, might as well share my story and hope someone tries to help me out.
The kind of girls I am attracted to are White and European, I don't know why but I just am. The girls I have mostly been with have been either Latina or Mixed Race. Now generally, I think I am an alright looking guy. Got accepted into beautifulpeople.com without any issues and I have been told I am handsome a few times.
Thing is, I live in the deep south where people generally stick to their own race. I am Indian ethnically (India) but was born and raised in the USA.
I really want to date girls who are White and have asked some out but it hasn't really gone anywhere. I mean I get depressed about this sometimes and feel like wanting to discuss it on the internet or talk about it obsessively. Sometimes I go to sleep at night just thinking about this.
I hear about how even in places like Canada and the big cities, it is unheard of to see Indian men date White women.
I know you guys will say "well be open minded and date other races, forget about White girls" but honestly those are the kind of girls I love the most and am the most attracted to. Then you will say "well you can't expect to be mad at White women for not dating you then" for which I will argue with you and this thread will end up a mess.
I honestly want a solution for my problem other than that. I honestly want to know of a place on this planet where an Indian guy who looks good himself and has his things together can date attractive White girls without any issues. Where most women who are White won't hold guy being Indian against him.
Or I want something to help me recover from this depression, any ideas?
My opinion is that if you limit yourself so with regard to who you will and will not date, you may eventually find yourself an old man asking a knot hole in a fence for a date. Find someone who you are compatible with. It doesn't matter what the color of their skin is.
What are you talking about? Your post makes no sense at all. I told you I knew a woman that married a guy from Qater. I told you I was married to a black woman. Thats all I said. The jokes just show women don't like insincerity.
Anyway I think this should be in the relationship/dating section of this forum rather than here. You apparently have asked these general questions on CD before.
So what do you want people to say, read that article about changing how you come across to women, move to another place, or rent an escort. If you think all younger women are just looking for a few minutes of sex and thats it? They are thinking ahead believe me.
So if you got it all figured out and its just these stereotypes women have been fed, then why ask here at all? Wouldn't the same thing apply reference interracial dating in general? Still 1 in 12 marriages are now interracial in the USA
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