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Originally Posted by chiluvr1228
I have found making lists regarding the specific problem I am having helps. For instance, in your case, you want to move. Start with this:
- What are your priorities for your new place? What do you hate about your present place that you want to be different? Better weather, less cost of living, better schools, better medical care, more of a social scene? More outdoor activities?
- How can you achieve this move in the near future? Do you need to do research? Right here on CD is a good place to start. Do you need to save up money? If so how can you do that? Cancel non-essentials like cable or a landline?
- Have you set a time limit to help you achieve your goals or are you just sitting around hating where you are now but have no concrete steps in mind to help you achieve these goals?
I have suffered with severe panic/anxiety attacks for a couple of years due to a very stressful job. They are awful but there are ways to control them. You may need to be on a short term medication if they are bad enough. Otherwise start with making a plan. You will feel more in control. Good Luck.
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Excellent post. I decided I was going to move. I knew there was a certain security where I lived, but I wasn't at all happy. Did I want to risk that for a new start? Did I really know it would be?
Write out your questions, then break them down into smaller ones. Why do you want to move? Take each reason and look deeper. Remember you are taking a risk, too, and define how important each part is. What is the gain? Often I think people hesitate since while they don't love the existing place and circumstances, they are sure. Look at the gains against the fears. Moving is a leap of faith too. Define the stuff you gain against your fears and maybe take some time on it. But you have to know the little voices in your head before you can tell them to go.
And plan. Divide things into larger parts. You want to move. You have an idea where. And why. Let youself see you in that place. Get excited about it. And while your doing that, make firm plans to accomplish it.
Have a list of things to be settled and when you finish one, your one step closer.
My family was very surprised when I said I wanted to move, and even more when I explained the plans I'd come up with. It made it so much easier to deal with it in little steps than look at the whole enormity of it.
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