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my niece is a 2nd grade teacher and has developed a drinking problem. she knows she needs to go to rehab but is so ashamed(her word) to tell her principal.they have worked together 10 years and the principal thinks very highly of her.
I'm not sure how to go about it, but doing nothing will only allow the alcoholism to get worse, and then just how embarrassed will your niece be when the principal can no longer ignore what will eventually become obvious and has to talk to her about it?
Perhaps she can make it through this current school year and get into rehab as soon as summer break begins? Or she can start immediately to attend AA meetings. Some people are helped by AA and some are not; she should try it.
Does she want a detox or a full 28 day rehab program?
A detox will take around 5 days either being discharged on the 5th day or the 6th..
Going for a detox program I see no reason to disclose where or why she's going..
A 28 day absence is a bit trickier to explain away..
My suggestion as a recovering alcoholic is to go when the desire to go is strong, don't wait as there is all to great of a chance of putting it off, over and over and over..
See if there's an intensive outpatient program (IOP) in your area. If so, she can attend in the evenings and not miss work or tell any of her colleagues.
See if there's an intensive outpatient program (IOP) in your area. If so, she can attend in the evenings and not miss work or tell any of her colleagues.
And this. When I threw out my alkie husband, he was required to go to an inpatient rehab if he wanted unsupervised visits with our daughter.
His lawyer asked if it was ok if he went to an outpatient evening program because he had found a day job, and of course I said yes.
I find it heart breaking that she can know a person for 10 years and still be worried about what stigma that person will feel towards here if she opens up about it. However, that could be entirely based on her own assumptions. Most people have a loved one that has suffered from alcoholism and they realize it is a disease and that it needs treated. I would suggest she open up about it and see how he will really react. IOP is a good idea, but she may need a residential treatment center to find recovery. It really depends on how much help she needs and that can be hard to assess.
Anything she can do to improve her understanding of the disease will help her on the path to recovery. At the very least, she could begin listening to some podcasts about addiction treatment and recovery.
I find it heart breaking that she can know a person for 10 years and still be worried about what stigma that person will feel towards here if she opens up about it. However, that could be entirely based on her own assumptions. Most people have a loved one that has suffered from alcoholism and they realize it is a disease and that it needs treated. I would suggest she open up about it and see how he will really react. IOP is a good idea, but she may need a residential treatment center to find recovery. It really depends on how much help she needs and that can be hard to assess.
Anything she can do to improve her understanding of the disease will help her on the path to recovery. At the very least, she could begin listening to some podcasts about addiction treatment and recovery.
As can be seen in the mental health forum, the other party having experience from a friend or loved one can be bad. If they had a very negative experience and some people lack empathy for anything that is seen as a weakness, something that in their view the person should have complete control over.
In fact alcoholism is a mental health issue and stigmas abound.
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