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What was your experience with that person? Are those type of people capable of healthy friendship or relationship? I met one person with that mental disorder. She’s fine as a casual acquaintance but I wouldn’t be close friends with her.
Her condition is controlled with meds and seeing a therapist regularly
I think this is one of those questions where it's necessary to provide an explanation of what Reactive Attachment Disorder is. I've never heard of the term before this and had to look it up to find out what it is that you're talking about.
My great niece, who is currently 5, was adopted from India at the age of 14 months. She relatively quickly got over her shyness with her parents, but then kind of swung the other way, where no one was a stranger to her.
Her pediatrician told her parents that was something to be concerned about, and to try and teach her/show her boundaries, as she would literally go to anyone.
I think this is one of those questions where it's necessary to provide an explanation of what Reactive Attachment Disorder is. I've never heard of the term before this and had to look it up to find out what it is that you're talking about.
Such a failure could result from severe early experiences of neglect, abuse, abrupt separation from caregivers between the ages of six months and three years,
This came up recently in a documentary about Ted Kaczynski, known as the Unabomber.
At one point, his younger brother had asked his mother what was wrong with Teddy, why couldn't he make any friends.
His mother told him that Ted had been normal until he was two, when he developed an illness and was hospitalized. The parents were told not to come to the hospital because he had to be isolated, and so they were separated from him for six weeks. When he was well and came home, he no longer made eye contact with them or smiled.
I think, most of us have at some point? But I've never known of someone having a formal diagnosis.
The most likely one I can think of would be a vague acquaintance, a friend of a friend, who apparently was pretty neglected as a kid, and at one point was hobbling around on a broken ankle as a kid for a couple of weeks (supposedly) before a family friend prodded to have her taken to a doctor to have it checked out. It's hard to imagine parents that oblivious, but they exist.
I've known a couple of families where the pre-school aged kids had behaviour problems dire enough that social workers were notified and got involved. The kids acted out mostly, but extremely withdrawn behaviour, that wasn't part of it, so I don't think it would have been RAD.
My adopted granddaughter has it. She's 13 now and it's extremely serious. We are all hoping that as her hormones kick in that she gets a little better. She is in a special needs school and has been hospitalized multiple times from the age of 5.
She has to be supervised at all times to protect everyone in the family and the pets. She has mutilated animals, she steals, she lies constantly, she will destroy her surroundings, hurt her siblings and self-harm.
But, she is also the cutest and most charming person in a room full of strangers. She can be super friendly to people of all ages. But then she will get in your purse and steal something to give to someone else to manipulate them into doing something she wants.
Her condition has never been able to be controlled by meds long term. Meds that slow down her responses give her more time to plan something devious.
That all said, I love her dearly and we have a good relationship but I have to be on guard 24/7.
I know of another 18 year old girl who is also diagnosed with RAD. Their stories are identical.
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