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I've been researching the air force for the past few months, and I also have friends in the air force that love it. I am looking into it for various reasons; finances, college, stability.. yada yada..
My delay is that I am a mother of 2 young babies. My oldest will be 3 in October and my youngest just turned 6 months. I'm wondering if there are any air force moms and/or dads that joined when their children were still young, and how you handle the possibility of deploying. My husband is in the Army reserves and his contract is up in October. Just kind of looking for some advice, warnings and such from people who have or had similar situations.
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Last edited by Poncho_NM; 06-26-2014 at 07:39 PM..
I didn't join with a small child, but I currently am in with a small child. The thought of deploying and leaving my child is horrific, but it is a risk I'm willing to take because of the other benefits of being in. I have been lucky and haven't had to leave him yet, but it would be heartbreaking. The bottom line is that you don't have to like it, but you have to be willing to do it.
I didn't join with a small child, but I currently am in with a small child. The thought of deploying and leaving my child is horrific, but it is a risk I'm willing to take because of the other benefits of being in. I have been lucky and haven't had to leave him yet, but it would be heartbreaking. The bottom line is that you don't have to like it, but you have to be willing to do it.
I'm sorry that I am not genetically adapted to answer this question myself - but I have to ask - how on earth can you "leave your children behind?"
You did what it took to bring them into this world with all the responsibilities that goes with it.
You didn't consider THEIR welfare before you opened your legs?
I'm sorry, but this really frosts my somewhere you don't want to see.
I'm sorry that I am not genetically adapted to answer this question myself - but I have to ask - how on earth can you "leave your children behind?"
You did what it took to bring them into this world with all the responsibilities that goes with it.
You didn't consider THEIR welfare before you opened your legs?
I'm sorry, but this really frosts my somewhere you don't want to see.
Leaving for a six month deployment does not negate all the other parenting that one does. Often, during a deployment there are daily phone calls, skype, letters, gifts, and other ways to stay involved. Children are not left in foster homes.
Why is it Ok for a man to do this but not a woman?
I am obviously NOT against serving in the military.
As your husband should have learned, being in the service in the lower grades it not only a financial hardship, but a mental one as well. Everybody in the world tells you what to do, where to be, and how to get there. The first months would leave your husband to virtually be alone to care for your three children.
Is he prepared for that?
In my 23 years, those who suffered the most were those E-4 and below. If you join the USAF for 4 years, you will be fortunate to reach a rank above E-4.
I made be a crusty old Lifer but have always felt that anybody serving in the military should not even consider getting married before attaining E-5 - or even in the case of officers O-2.
"If the military wanted you to have a spouse - it would have issued it to you!"
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