My wife and I are in our 30s, and moved here 6 years ago from Boston.
IMHO, traffic is not a problem. Thaere are idiot drivers anywhere (turns out other cities have tourists who don't know where they're going as well
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Cost of living -- particularly housing -- is much cheaper; however my wife is a Nurse, and the medical pay is much lower.
The biggest challenge for non-retirees moving here is the job pay... You really have to crunch the numbers to understand if it can work for you, and/or what I always recommend is getting a remote job -- however doesn't sound like your careers are a good fit for that.
I have a local friend who is part of local band
https://www.sweetsweetband.com/ - I think they're dropping a new album soon.