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My hub would like to move south in a few years. All family and friends are here. While I ws up for it months ago, I am beginning to not want to. He would like warmer weather, so moving to Pa or Ct.
won't help. As much as NJ is exspensive and all, to me it is still home. (for now anyway)
I think this question applies to people who have lived most of their live in NJ and still have many friends and family in this area. If you were escaping NJ would you move the next state over (Pennsylvania or Conneticut) or would you flat out leave the area and all that you know? Many people use a 3-5 hour rule about how fast you could return to NJ incase of a family emergency. Would you? Planes are sometimes faster and safer?
If you already left, how many times do you really come back and how far is the ride?
I was a daddy's girl, we were very close. Moving an hour and 15 minutes away from him wasn't bad until he got sick. He ended up having to go to the hospital, next thing I knew he was getting blood, I drove up, spent the night then when I was sure he was going to be released I went home. I wasn't in the door more then an hour when I got the dreaded call that he had cancer and needed to go to Robert Wood.
Thankfully his new house was closing in a week but he'd be ion a hospital for a month, then came 8 months of running back & forth from home to Robert Wood; every day while he was admitted then every other day when he was home.
If you are an only child or if your the only child left near your parents, think to have them move to where you're going.
I was a daddy's girl, we were very close. Moving an hour and 15 minutes away from him wasn't bad until he got sick. He ended up having to go to the hospital, next thing I knew he was getting blood, I drove up, spent the night then when I was sure he was going to be released I went home. I wasn't in the door more then an hour when I got the dreaded call that he had cancer and needed to go to Robert Wood.
Thankfully his new house was closing in a week but he'd be ion a hospital for a month, then came 8 months of running back & forth from home to Robert Wood; every day while he was admitted then every other day when he was home.
If you are an only child or if your the only child left near your parents, think to have them move to where you're going.
We left "home" in July. Our first trip back will be in October, my SIL/BIL are visiting the week after that, and my parents are coming out for two weeks at Christmas. So it looks like we're meeting up with both sides of the family about quarterly. Our overall plan is to always have the next trip planned by the end of the current trip, so time doesn't slip away.
I miss having my parents nearby for convenience-sake, but I still talk to them several times a day so I don't feel like we are too far - thank goodness for free long distance. Boy, what a modern day improvement that is!!!
The only true downfall I see is that most, if not all, of our vacation time will know be spent with family, instead of tropical beaches and DisneyWorld (ha, as if!)
We left "home" in July. Our first trip back will be in October, my SIL/BIL are visiting the week after that, and my parents are coming out for two weeks at Christmas. So it looks like we're meeting up with both sides of the family about quarterly. Our overall plan is to always have the next trip planned by the end of the current trip, so time doesn't slip away.
I miss having my parents nearby for convenience-sake, but I still talk to them several times a day so I don't feel like we are too far - thank goodness for free long distance. Boy, what a modern day improvement that is!!!
The only true downfall I see is that most, if not all, of our vacation time will know be spent with family, instead of tropical beaches and DisneyWorld (ha, as if!)
Funny you say that.... back when my sis was young and naive (lol, she is now old and wise like me...lol)... she was going to move to FL just because she liked warm weather. I was FURIOUS at her and made sure she knew it on a daily basis. She once said "We'll see each other every vacation." I said "If you think I'm going to FL every vacation to see YOUR SORRY ASS just because YOU abandoned US... you are so mistaken." LOL
My sis is now one town a way and likes it that way. LOL
Can I tell you DH's stance on this? When our baby was born someone gave us a bank that said "College savings fund" and had all these names around it... UCLA, Penn State, Harvard, U Mich.." you get the idea. DH refused to display it unless we had it redone w/ names of local colleges only. He said "Screw that. We live in Jersey - they can go to any college including IVY within driving distance. She goes away - she pays her own way." LMAO. He's Cuban.....
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