How far would you move from family and friends

[Roselvr]

Originally Posted by EEEPNJ

So sorry Roselvr

Thank you. Forgot to add that his new house was 7 blocks from me. So much easier being a caretaker living in the same town.

My hubby's family lives out of state. His dad got sick a few weeks after mine then passed 6 weeks later. It was a bit expensive traveling from NJ to Ohio (if you don't have notice) plus gas is expensive. His mom was diagnosed with cancer back in February, we couldn't afford for him to fly out on short notice this time due to my hubby missing work for 2 months. Thankfully she has 3 kids there this round.

This is why I said to consider moving them along with you. If they are retirement age, anything can happen. I don't know what's going on but I've been meeting a lot of people that also say their parent(s) had cancer, they seem to be anywhere from late 60's to mid 70's. I don't know if it's something they were exposed to or what but preparing now is smart.

Sibs should get together to decide who is doing what. We felt helpless those days when hubby wasn't there for either of his parents, since we were the main caretakers for my dad. Emotionally, it's very hard. The hardest thing is not only being there for both parents but also not being able to voice an opinion (such as what hospital / care facility) since you are not the child it falls on.