Going to bars alone. (home, living in, restaurants)
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I have always wondered what's the stigma for a guy to go to a bar alone, I just moved to the city and I've met a few friends but they don't do the bar scene and I really would like to meet more people and talk to girls, back home it wasn't a problem because I had my friends but here I'm solo, am I doomed until I find my wingman or is it not as 'creepy' to go out by yourself as it is in other cities?
Do this. Go to a bar alone and try to reserve a bar stool next to your for awhile. Order a drink and check your watch and cell phone as if you're waiting for someone. Finally place a "fake" outbound call to your friend who for whatever reason, is canceling on you. Give your extra stool up and hang out at the bar. Then go go the same bar again and again until you become a regular. Once you're a regular, you can go alone because you'll know other regulars. Here in Chicago, people go to bars alone all of the time; even women. Don't not go out because you have no one to go out with. Life is too short to sit home alone on your computer! :-)
I'm a single guy who lives around the corner from a strip of very popular bars (3rd Ave. in the 30's). It's nothing to go it alone for lunch and a beer, or on a Monday-Tuesday-Wednesday-Sunday night. But Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night, I don't think I'd feel very comfortable flying solo in these joints. But that's me. Perhaps it is largely up to the individual. Maybe instead of the bars you could go the internet dating route. I know quite a few guys who have plenty of friends to go to bars with but met their girlfriends with match.com or whatever.
Absolutely nothing wrong with having a drink or two at a bar in NYC. Just be sure not to drink and drive. But hey, one of the perks of living in NYC is that you generally don't need a car. It's also a city catered for the individual or groups alike. You can pretty much hang by yourself if you so choose - dinner alone, movie alone, walk in the park alone, museum alone, and bar alone.
Sometimes one needs to go it alone just to have a change of pace from all the friends and associates - genuine and phony alike. One needs a breather, to collect one's thoughts and evaluate which direction one is heading in.
Going to a bar alone has its advantages if you just want to have a quiet drink and not get drunk, there's no pressure from friends. If you are a guy and want to meet someone, that beautiful lady might open up to you on a one on one basis if you're alone. If you're a lady alone, the fella over there won't be trying to decide between you and your girlfriend and you won't have to convince her on the way home that you're more suitable for him.
I don't go out alone very often in NYC but I travel a lot for work and find that going out alone is a lot less weird if the place has a pool table as you tend to get to know the people who are playing or hanging out around the table. I've definitely met a lot of girls doing that and if you play pool at all in the city you definitely notice that it is a magnet for people who are out alone but feel like drinking and being social.
It just depends on the kind of bar. There are plenty of bars that are "quieter," and are just meant for people to come in and have some drinks, maybe get some food, and watch a game. You won't be looked at as creepy in a bar like that.
I'm married, but have gone to the bar area of restaurants (in Seattle) alone. I eat, I stay for a couple of drinks, I love it.
I sit on a stool right at the bar so I can watch all of the action and eavesdrop on lots of conversations. I find it very entertaining. I don't feel creepy, but who knows if others are looking at me and judging me as a little weird.
Meh, who cares?
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