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Old 06-04-2011, 10:04 PM
 
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am i the only one who hates people that do this very thing and then you have to hound them to get YOUR money back?

currently here now, a co worker decided he wasnt going to pay me back after i had to pay for his lunch because his card was declined.


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Old 06-04-2011, 10:13 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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am i the only one who hates people that do this very thing and then you have to hound them to get YOUR money back?

currently here now, a co worker decided he wasnt going to pay me back after i had to pay for his lunch because his card was declined.


thoughts? similar issues?
There was a thread nearly identical to this one a few months back in the Relationships forum. I agree with many people there who said that if you loan someone money, do not count on getting it back. Some people are responsible about paying their debts and some are not. If you can't do without the amount the person wants to borrow, don't loan them the money.

I do agree, acealive, that it's crass and annoying when someone borrows money and does not pay it back. The only way to avoid the situation is to never loan money in the first place. As Ann Landers used to say, "No one can take advantage of you without your permission." If you're anything like me, though, sometimes you just can't help unwittingly giving people that "permission"!
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Old 06-04-2011, 10:17 PM
 
Location: Pa
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He needs to pay you back, it's common curtsy. If I lend some money I like to get something back. Or like for lunch the other person to get me the next time. If I borrow I will always payback. But when I lend money for a small amount I don't expect it to be replenish.
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Old 06-04-2011, 10:26 PM
 
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If I had the money and that person was hungry, of course I would pay for his meal. If someone continually doesn't have lunch money, I would distance from him in the lunch line. I hate to think that I get angry because people want to borrow all the time, but sometimes I do.
Charity is a virtue, but giving and regretting it is not charity.
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Old 07-03-2011, 09:14 PM
 
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If I had the money and that person was hungry, of course I would pay for his meal. If someone continually doesn't have lunch money, I would distance from him in the lunch line. I hate to think that I get angry because people want to borrow all the time, but sometimes I do.
Charity is a virtue, but giving and regretting it is not charity.


it was one of those rock and a hard place things, we were in the drive thru and im like "ok now what do i do?"
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Old 07-03-2011, 09:17 PM
 
Location: South Central Texas
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Live and learn! Some people are just that bad...
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Old 07-04-2011, 12:19 AM
 
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Personally I don't mind giving because I think it's the cure for greediness. I do think that we ought to be careful and not give them permission to take advantage of us at the same time. For me, I would be worry if it was a bigger amount like $40 and over.
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Old 07-04-2011, 02:09 AM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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Why hate people that borrow money?? Some are honest, some are opportunists.
Instead to hate them, better just stop lending money - or lend only so much you are able, without any grief, afford to lose.
People can only take advantage of you if you allow them to.
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Old 07-04-2011, 03:55 AM
 
Location: Tulsa, OK
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I don't loan money, I give it. I never give more than I can afford to give. That way if the person gives it back or reciprocates by paying for something you bought you are pleasantly surprised. If you never get it back you were not expecting it.
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Old 07-04-2011, 07:36 AM
 
Location: Charlotte county, Florida
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I learned a long time ago never loan a person money and expect it back.
As far as the lunch thing goes chalk it up to you helped a person out that had no lunch.

I also refuse to lend out books for the very same reason.

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