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Facebook- named in a third of divorce filings in 2011.
most people go on there to cheat or to start trouble - number one reason for fights.
‘Facebook and Your Marriage’ warn about how the site can toss a monkey wrench in an otherwise happy marriage.
“People feel bolder behind a screen than in person,” the couple “People type and press ‘Send’ faster than common sense can kick in, and people feed off the rush they’re feeling rather than rationally thinking about what they’re doing.’
so how you feeling?
Oh, I bet this is true. I cannot believe people and the things they write on their Facebook page. Some of them do everything but describe their last bowel movement, they put waaaaay too much out there.
It replaces that old excuse "the devil made me do it". Just another silly excuse because no one makes you use FB to contact old or new lovers if you're married or they are.
Facebook may be mentioned but isn't the problem. If it weren't Facebook, it would be MySpace or MSN or AOL or whatever was used before all that stuff came along. Facebook just makes the communication easier.
I agree, if someone's going to cheat, they'll cheat. I only have 2 old flames on my friends list and both were friended when we were both single. An attached former classmate tried to initiate something but as soon as I figured out what was going on, I stopped responding to him.
I think the passive-aggressive comments about partners cause more of a threat. Instead of confiding relationship problems to a few trusted friends/relatives, people post vague or outright insulting comments about their partners. I wouldn't do that to a boyfriend or husband and I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who does it to me.
It also has an upside. Post-Sandy, I've used it to let family/friends know I'm ok and check in on them. Former classmates have offered each other a place to stay, warm up/shower/do laundry. People are also using it to coordinate relief efforts.
It's also been helpful to keep in touch with long distance family/friends. Yes you can use email and phone, but if i take a photo of something funny or make a random observation, i'm not going to call/email people about it. I find posting those things on Facebook generates chats here and there. Same for other people's statuses/photos.
most people go on there to cheat or to start trouble - number one reason for fights.
You made this up.
And have you bothered to check into (1) in what context FB was 'cited' in these divorces? And more importantly, (2) Whether the actual number of divorces has risen?
Facebook (and the rest of the internet) does make it easier for cheaters to cheat. It is a question of access. I have seen zero proof that this is anything more than a person who might have trolled around a bar or gotten it on with someone else's spouse in the PTA 10 years ago switching forums.
And have you bothered to check into (1) in what context FB was 'cited' in these divorces? And more importantly, (2) Whether the actual number of divorces has risen?
Facebook (and the rest of the internet) does make it easier for cheaters to cheat. It is a question of access. I have seen zero proof that this is anything more than a person who might have trolled around a bar or gotten it on with someone else's spouse in the PTA 10 years ago switching forums.
Easier is the key word here. If someone is on fb, And they are married and an ex contacts them hoping to "reconnect" all they have to do is say "nice to hear from you, Bye" and that's it if they do not want to do this. It is just a tool. Intention and desire ultimately are the main thing.
Pinhead from the Hellraiser series said it best:
"It is not the hands that call us, It is desire!"
Pinhead is very wise, Wears awesome outfits, And punishes evildoers.
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