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Maybe you should ask them if they'd like to pull the wings off of flies or torture some puppies when they're finished humiliating some innocent human being.
Maybe you should ask them if they'd like to pull the wings off of flies or torture some puppies when they're finished humiliating some innocent human being.
They probably would and do just that.
Even so -- I think attitude has a lot to do with getting picked on. I have dogs that will chase cats but only if the cat runs. I have a cat that gives any dog that looks at her "the look" and they back off and leave her alone.
Why is it that some kids and adults are never victimized, others always are.
In essence, some aggressive people never grow up and show compassion. You will see this go on everywhere unfortunately.
That's just it - people who are aggressive bullies are mistaken for being "strong", when the truth is they are the weakest of the bunch. They're just aggressively defending their own deep-seated insecurities by putting on a front of "toughness". But you know what? Toughness is not something that's needed all the time. At the end of the day, life is about loving and connecting with people, and the chronically "tough" are the guarded ones who are too terrified to step out of their little comfort zone. I would hate to live a life where I felt I had to be "on" all the time, trying to prove myself and trying to make others look bad to accomplish that. What kind of existence is that?
My coworker - who I have stood up for, by the way - is a kind and sensitive person, qualities that I personally think are awesome. But an aggressive, bully type doesn't even speak the same language as the sensitive among us; it's like they view the world through an entirely different lens. To them, it's all about who is up, and who is down, rather than learning to appreciate people for who they are and what they have to offer. These people never get to the truth of anything - they just jockey for position and take hostages.
Even so -- I think attitude has a lot to do with getting picked on. I have dogs that will chase cats but only if the cat runs. I have a cat that gives any dog that looks at her "the look" and they back off and leave her alone.
Why is it that some kids and adults are never victimized, others always are.
There seems to be something inate in nature to target the weak, however, as thinking beings we should know better.
There seems to be something inate in nature to target the weak, however, as thinking beings we should know better.
We should. Me, I have no problem targeting someone if they've wronged me and they deserve to be targeted. But to target someone just because they have a vulnerability? To target someone just to make yourself look better in comparison? I couldn't look at myself in the mirror anymore. I would be so ashamed.
I'm glad the OP could be like the chimp who defended the one being attacked, if indeed he/she does stand up for him (obviously you can't be his constant protector, but at least not remaining quiet all the time).
I used to work in a hospital and there was a man who was a "runner." He brought specimens over to our lab several times a day and he was obviously mentally handicapped though quite competent in his job and I always treated him with the respect he deserved. He had one maddening habit though--he would have to deliver a little speech when he came and if he got interrupted he'd start all over again. My co-worker at that time thought it was hilarious to continually interrupt him so he would start and re-start his speech 20 times or more. I so wanted to bind and gag that woman and never had any use for her after that.
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