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Should I pretend still to be her friend when I come cross her at the neighborhood or just ignore her? In her heart, I know I don't want to be friends with her, but still feel a little bit embarrassed when I see her in the neighborhood.
I'd just not initiate any contact with her. If you see her wave. If she says hello to you say hello back. If the situation calls for it, engage in small talk, but that's it. You know when you run into somebody that knows you but you have no clue as to who they are, engage her in that manner.
I met this lady at the playground of our subdivision and then become friends (not very close friends). Later I found out she was gossiping about me and my husband on one website where we both go to regularly (don't ask me how I know her username, it's accidentally found) . She said some bad words about me which is not the fact because we borrowed her van one time and we didn't pay her back. As a matter of fact, I did ask her and her husband to have lunch or dinner with us and it's our treat, but she didn't want it because her husband is workaholic and works all the time and she always said don't worry, we are neighbors and should help each other bla bla and I offered to buy the lunch and let my husband send to her husband's cubic since they are in the same company. But she refused my offer. When I saw her gossiping about us online for the first time, I was really mad and sad because I didn't mean to not to pay her back for her favor at that time, but she never mentioned this to me. I felt mistreated. So if you were me, what would you do? Confront her or just pretend don't know anything about it. I already decided not to be friends with her.
In HOUSTON, if it were me, I'd ignore it, and her. Pretending to be a friend with a stranger does nobody any good. Look at what it got you already. Was she not giving the impression that she was nice, and your friend by helping you out? What kind of friend then bashes their 'friend' because they asked for help, and it was given. It doesn't make sense. It sounds like you already did the right thing, and you are looking for confirmation.
Her refusal of dinner or lunch did not release you from some kind of reciprocity.
It was only 2 miles from my house to the deliver place, so I didn't pay the attention to the gas. I should have done something to express my thankfulness at that time, but I thought we are neighbors and I can pay her back later. Obviously, she wants me to pay her back right after her favor.
It was only 2 miles from my house to the deliver place, so I didn't pay the attention to the gas. I should have done something to express my thankfulness at that time, but I thought we are neighbors and I can pay her back later. Obviously, she wants me to pay her back right after her favor.
You are very fortunate, you know the character of this lady despite her false face to you in front of you, Now you know she isnt a good friend nor a good person to make things up to gossip about. If you see her day hi and wave but stay away from her, she isnt worth a minute more of your time. You did not thing wrong, do not let her make you feel like you did.
I would just avoid her in the future. People can be *******s, but ultimately they do and say hurtful things because they are playing out some kind of drama in their minds. It's not personal, it's not about you. Just avoid people like that, unless you want to be sucked into the drama. In general, I think that avoiding hurtful people is a good rule of thumb. When you see her on the street or passing in your car, whatever, just wave and say hi, be cordial, but if she attempts anything closer than acquaintanceship, don't go there. That is what I would do. Choose your friends carefully.
Whatever happened to the days of speaking up, in a non-controversial way? I don't see why you can't just say hi so and so, I just happened to run across your posting on some forum about me. Can we talk about this? Then go from there. I just don't see why people feel the need to have to walk on eggshells around others if it directly involves them. It's not like this is a physically threatening situation. It could just be a complete misunderstanding or the lady is just a plain ol drama queen. Either way, I'd say to call her or just talk to her next time you see her. You're not feeding into anything. You're just standing up for yourself, in real life, not behind some laptop.
If the favor she did for you was so minor, ignore her. I thought you must have driven the van to Dallas.
Loaning somebody a vehicle for 2 mile trip is insignificant. Ignore her. She must be an idiot if she thinks she can do a jr. high mean girl thing and you will not know about it. Get her a gift card to rub it in, and then write her off.
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