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I can't imagine sitting in front of a person who cuts my hair for 45 minutes every four weeks without having a nice pleasant relationship with her. I am not close friends with her outside of her salon but when I am with her I enjoy our conversations and catching up. By being friendly she is more likely to try hard to give me a good cut.
Last time I was there I had an interesting conversation with her about her regular customers. She said that most of them are completely silent during the haircut. They just sit there and give short one word answers to her attempts at conversation. The least friendly customers are the executive types. Maybe they feel like they are too good to talk to just a hairdresser. But they return month after month, so they respect her hairdressing skills.
It made me think about our personal relationship with people we don't socialize with but see all the time. Your thoughts?
I like my hairdresser. He does a great job, knows how to talk when I want to, but sometimes I just want to chill and not talk to anyone. We have a good enough relationship for him to know that this is the way I am, so he doesn't take it personally.
I do respect my hairdresser because he always does a good job. I've been to bad (i.e. cheap) and when it comes to hair, you do get what you pay for.
Just because you don't feel like talking does not mean you are not friendly. The hairdresser is not living that person's life.
I say your/her "expert" opinion about "executive" types being too good to talk to her is also wrong. They might know the difference between busy talk and a conversation.
I do not consider paying a person to do a service for me as having a personal relationship. I feel about the woman that cuts my hair the same as I do most people. I hope she has a long, happy, and healthy life. Other than that I don't give a damn.
We're friendly, but I avoid giving too much information about my personal life because she cuts/colors a lot of people that I know/ work with. Gossip is a virus in a small town. I don't think she would say a thing about me - she doesn't talk about other people to me - but I hear the stylists on either side talk about so-and-so, who I just happen to know. Unless it's common knowledge, I don't say much.
In my past I had two hairdressers each of whom cut my hair every six weeks for more than 10 years. I tipped generously, gave them holiday gifts, and conversed with them when I was in the chair. At a point, both of them quit. I learned that in one case it was because the stylist felt overwhelmed with having a full-time job once she had her second child. In the later case it supposedly involved a mysterious dispute with the salon owner. Neither of these people, with whom I had a decade-long cordial relationship, bothered to inform me of this change that would effect my life to a degree. In both instances, I learned I would need a new hair dresser the day I called to set my appointment.
The first time this happened I just chalked it up to weirdness. But the second time I began to wonder. Do these service providers feel no responsibility to throwing such a curve ball into the life of someone who has been a good customer? If someone has their hair done ten times a year, it can be costing them from $250 to over $2,000 dollars depending on the level of the salon or the services rendered.
Had I treated these two poorly, I could imagine they might be grateful for an excuse to dump me. But that was far from the case — I was paying top dollar in every way. It's unlikely that either of these people made their decision on the spur of the moment. What would it have taken for them to gather up the contact info for regulars and send us a postcard notifying us that would have to make other arrangements? Needless to say, a salon whose employee has quit will never tell a customer where they went if they merely moved to another salon.
I guess it's the same as with employers today. No length of relationship requires any sensitivity when it comes time to dump the dedicated. That just tells me maybe my tips should have been smaller.
I like my hairdresser. He does a great job, knows how to talk when I want to, but sometimes I just want to chill and not talk to anyone. We have a good enough relationship for him to know that this is the way I am, so he doesn't take it personally.
I do respect my hairdresser because he always does a good job. I've been to bad (i.e. cheap) and when it comes to hair, you do get what you pay for.
I have gone to the same hair dresser for 25 years, at three different salons.
Sometimes I am talkative and sometimes I'm quiet. He doesn't care as long as I keep coming back.
Up until 7 years ago I was sleeping with mine. She was my GF and a hairdresser, does that count ?
Don
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She was my GF and a hairdresser, does that count ?
