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If he asked you before, and didnt ask you this time, seems like he didnt want to, for whatever reason. There could be issues going on with his family. Id graciously back out and do something else.
I have almost the same situation as the OP. I never go to other people's Thanksgiving or Christmas holidays because those are really family affairs and I just would not feel like I belonged although I am sure I would be welcomed and treated well.
I personally like to use these holidays as my special time to just enjoy whatever I want to do. I don't go for a traditional diner. Ive got chicken in the crock pot for diner. I might go down to the restaurant I used to work at at lunch time and chat with some of my ex-coworkers since they are stuck working and I know they won't be busy. I might take myself to a movie or enjoy a book and I will spend some time on-line chatting with friends as they pop in and out on FB. I might even get daring enough to hit one of those Pre-Black Friday sales. I really need a new TV. Mine croaked a few weeks ago and I miss my morning news.
I actually have come to love my peaceful and quiet holidays.
If you're really not sure, just tell him you're still tired and you're going to go lay down. Excuse yourself and go to your room like an hour before the time that you were expecting to leave. If he comes calling for you, then you're invited. If he doesn't, then you're not.
Whoops, I got caught napping, literally. I saw my error last night, but fell asleep trying to edit my post.
I should have said local Rescue Mission, and that you would meet the best folks in your town. I also should have told you the kitchen to which I referred is not always called a Rescue Mission. Sometimes it's a homeless shelter, a soup kitchen, you name it. Regardless of where it is, they serve the favored meal of the year on Thanksgiving. And they are profoundly appreciative for the people who take time from their own holiday to cook for them.
I just don't feel comfortable with your roommate's lack of enthusiasm or the fact that he was put on the spot by your query. And I keep thinking about the aunt. She could have called if she intended for you to come. If you do go with your roommate this year, remember not to walk in empty-handed. Pick up a couple of good bottles of wine if they are drinkers. Otherwise, a generous bouquet of flowers is always appreciated, or an extravagant dessert from a well-known restaurant. You will feel more comfortable if you bring something lovely, and you may get your own invite next holiday. Let us know what happens.
Believe it or not, jealousy might have entered the picture. I an assuming your roommate talks very little with his family, also. You add more to the conversation than he does - the aunt chimes in about adopting you - Mr. Stoic may have been a little jealous. In this case, even if they ask where you are, he will probably say nothing to you about it. Ah....human nature.
Since your roommate doesn't share much personal information with you, or even mention an invitation, it is possible that his family is having difficulties of some kind right now (a pending divorce, a teenage child in trouble, an illness?). They may not be in the mood for company if this is the case. I hate to suggest that you eat Thanksgiving dinner alone, it hurts me because I have a family situation like yours, but when it comes time to get ready for dinner tomorrow, if your roommate does not insist you come with, consider heading over to the Greenville Rescue Mission, to the back door, with a few cans of vegetables or a turkey. They will put you right to work serving Greenville's disadvantaged, and you will meet the best folks in Greenville working beside you. It's a blast, it's life changing, and you will never again wonder what to do on a holiday.
This is very good advice.
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