Parents' threats to send a "cleaning lady" out to my house (long read)

[Minervah]

Originally Posted by Pitt Chick

Really?
Then why does the OP clearly say that she IS a tenant?
And "model tenants" to boot!

That is what is confusing. At one point she said her husband's name was not on the deed. That would make her part owner. But in another post she referred to herself as a tenant which would make her a renter. Maybe she thinks of herself as a tenant who is paying rent because she lives there. But she has also said she is paying part of the mortgage which is not rent.

She has been getting mixed advice because she is giving us mixed explanations. Obviously, the problem goes deeper than a cleaning lady coming to her house. She needs to deal with her controlling parents. The problem with the house might be solved with a trip to an attorney to determine just what the rights and benefits of the shared property ownership are for all parties concerned.

If I were in her shoes, I would tell the parents that I was going to sell my interest in the house and get the heck out from under their thumb and take it from there.

[Tallybalt]

I, like some others on here, can see there's more to the story than she's letting on.

Apparently every time she speaks to her parents they hound her as per her original post:

"I need to lose weight, I never clean the house worth a $hit, I'm on medications I shouldn't be on."

Hmm...since the OP hasn't been around I'm comfortable in saying that it's probably not unfair to consider the possibly that there's some significant psychological/behavioral problems going on in the OP's house and her parents are actually deeply concerned and / or frustrated. I would not be surprised at all to find out if the place was filthy and the OP is depressed and / or unfocused and not really seeing the situation around her.

Originally Posted by Minervah

That is what is confusing. At one point she said her husband's name was not on the deed. That would make her part owner. But in another post she referred to herself as a tenant which would make her a renter. Maybe she thinks of herself as a tenant who is paying rent because she lives there. But she has also said she is paying part of the mortgage which is not rent.

She has been getting mixed advice because she is giving us mixed explanations. Obviously, the problem goes deeper than a cleaning lady coming to her house. She needs to deal with her controlling parents. The problem with the house might be solved with a trip to an attorney to determine just what the rights and benefits of the shared property ownership are for all parties concerned.

If I were in her shoes, I would tell the parents that I was going to sell my interest in the house and get the heck out from under their thumb and take it from there.

[ocnjgirl]

This poster hasn't been back on City Data in 4 months.

[stan4]

You cannot get mad of you needed them to get the home in the first place.
They need to protect their interests, too.

[Ashley868]

You seem kind of selfish in my opinion. Your parents seem like the want to help you out. I work six days a week, so I only get one day a week to relax. Usually it's spent cleaning because I only do a quick clean up during the week, because I hate messiness. If someone offered to hire a cleaning service for me, I'd be more than happy. It's coming from their pockets and they own the house. If you don't like it then move.

[plantress]

Op where did you go?