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My housemate, along with a number of others over the years, is constantly whining, sniveling, letter writing, and telephoning for the sole purpose of ripping people a new one for what oftentimes are imagined or exaggerated reasons.
Does this type of behavior really get results for people? I roll with the punches on everything, when I encounter the daily crap in life I just shrug it off, so people that get their shorts in a bunch are a complete mystery to me.
I've tried everything from subtle hints to coaching to snide remarks and nothing seems to get through to him when I launch "you can catch more flies with honey" type discussions. He's retired which means he has plenty of time on his hands and each new day brings yet more drama. More perceived injustice, indignation, dissatisfaction....and it's always someone elses's fault, despite evidence to the contrary.
I am increasingly wondering if I really have room in my life for people like this. Anybody else subjected to adult temper tantrums? Coping suggestions needed please, I can't move for another month.
You can't change this person. In my experience people stop changing in their thirties, although I am sure there are exceptions. He's set in his ways.
In terms of coping for another month, I'd suggest staying out of the house as much as you can. If you are in the house for an extended period, try staying in your room. I know the latter is hard. I'd just stay away.
There isn't any use in trying to change the way this guy interacts with you or anyone else. You will have to do the changing. So, change by giving him as wide a berth as possible.
put the earbuds in your ear and ignore him,,,,if he asks, tell him he reminds you of the grinch and and old man where you grew up,,,that was old and miserable,,,,he died alone in his house and no one noticed for 4 months,,because no one wanted to be around him..
I'm not being a wiseass or anything but what exactly is a "housemate"? Are the related to you or just a fellow tenant? Why not just get a place of your own?
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