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Just avoid him. Life is too short. If he's ill he will keep doing it. If he's not ill, he's a no good you know what. Either way....things can never be the same again. It's over.
Last edited by Brave Stranger; 06-04-2014 at 11:01 PM..
The best time would have been right then but that's passed.
I understand the friends/ neighbors thing makes it more difficult if it's a relationship you'd like to continue.
Maybe, in these later years his wife has stopped having sex with him, making his life different.
I'd act as though it didn't happen and if it does , tell him that it just isn't going to happen and if he tries again, you will tell his wife and being neighbors will become very uncomfortable.
If it is an aging mental problem, she should know and if he's just getting too horny, he should give it up and you might be able to continue being friendly.....at the least, neighborly.
Of course, it depends on how you handled it the first time as to whether or not he makes another attempt.
The best time would have been right then but that's passed.
I understand the friends/ neighbors thing makes it more difficult if it's a relationship you'd like to continue.
Maybe, in these later years his wife has stopped having sex with him, making his life different.
I'd act as though it didn't happen and if it does , tell him that it just isn't going to happen and if he tries again, you will tell his wife and being neighbors will become very uncomfortable.
If it is an aging mental problem, she should know and if he's just getting too horny, he should give it up and you might be able to continue being friendly.....at the least, neighborly.
Of course, it depends on how you handled it the first time as to whether or not he makes another attempt.
I think the same as you about the wife.
We went out as couples together and looked out for them . Plowing, etc.
You've known him for decades (?) and this is the first time he's ever been inappropriate? Given his age, I'd also think it's something to do with a declining cognitive state. That or perhaps medication. I know at least one SSRI can cause "lack of judgement" and loss of the ability to inhibit oneself. The person might know what they're doing but simply not care (personal experience with someone I know; thankfully it was figured out--because it was so out of character--and medication slowly tapered off. And, this was someone half that old guy's age!).
My uncle (mom's brother) had some sudden, weird cognitive decline in his early 70s, and out-of-the-blue one visit (the couples visited each other about every 5-6 weeks) slugged my 70-yr-old dad (a brother-in-law this man had known literally ALL his life). No provocation or anything. Uncle just snapped as my dad walked into the house. Thankfully my dad knew better than to escalate it further, and after my mom gave her brother a good talking-to, my parents left. They resumed visits as if nothing happened--and nothing further ever did--after a few months. It wasn't long, though, before my aunt had to put uncle into a veteran's home.
The husband of one of my good friends had dementia and started chasing their cleaning lady around the house when the wife was gone or outside. She didn't want to tell the wife and decided to quit instead.
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This happens with the elderly sometimes. He more than likely is suffering from dementia. The best advice you have is to speak to his family members. You can feel them out about his mental condition without mentioning this incident. Then, if he is having problems, you can tell them what happened. Also, if it turns out his mental health is declining, he will not understand if you stop being friendly because he won't remember the incident.
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