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this is a tough deal, chances are i would remain neutral, but wary of the accused. if the accused was convicted, i would hope that he survives prison, and when he got out, i might maintain the friendship, at a bit of a distance though, and hope that he learned his lesson, but if he continued his ways as before, the friendship would likely ultimately end.
I have a friend that I have known since college. In 1994 after he broke up with a girlfriend, then got back together with her and broke up again - they were still hooking up, even after she had a new boyfriend.
After one night when she hooked up with my buddy (only for sex), her current boyfriend found out and at that point in time either due to a weak moral compass, narcissism and other psychological issues, she covered for her cheating behavior by claiming that she did have sex with her ex but he 'forced' her.
One thing led to another, and her lie evolved and he eventually got arrested for rape (2nd degree) and went to court and his life was changed forever.
Eleven years later (2005) when he was renting a room at a house that I owned, she tracked him down through a mutual friend and called him and eventually they got back together. Over a decade after what she did altered the course of his life forever. I witnessed her return and their renewed relationship. She apologized to him and he thought she was sincere about it. They were making plans to be together long term.
She eventually cheated on him and it ended again.
I'm still friends with my buddy. . . . . . the 'rapist'.
If there is a hell, I truly hope that she burns in it.
I'm very troubled by some of the responses in this thread. There are many stories of men that did not rape a woman but were accused of doing so, but there are just as many stories of men who did rape a woman and got off on the crime without punishment. It's sad that because there are false accusation cases, that men would not believe a true victim if she were raped because this underlining belief that most rape cases are due to revenge or lies.
Of course I would not be friends with a rapist if he truly raped a woman. It's a bit odd that this would even be posted, unless your lacking morals continuing a friendship with someone who actually commited rape is pretty sick. On the other hand because accused doesn't always mean anything. It's a difficult line to tread.
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