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You get invited to this family's many kid's birthdays and baby showers. You give each time with never a thank-you card or a call or howdy-do on my birthday. You give and give and give and they take and take. Should a person still keep giving?
I'm just using myself as an example but this actually happened to someone I know. I told her to stop giving and she has and also stopped attending all the parties. Should she have continued going to all the parties and kept giving gifts even though they never acknowledged her on her birthday and never followed up with a nice thank you card? I know no one ever much writes thank you notes anymore, but there is always email at least.
You get invited to this family's many kid's birthdays and baby showers. You give each time with never a thank-you card or a call or howdy-do on my birthday. You give and give and give and they take and take. Should a person still keep giving?
I'm just using myself as an example but this actually happened to someone I know. I told her to stop giving and she has and also stopped attending all the parties. Should she have continued going to all the parties and kept giving gifts even though they never acknowledged her on her birthday and never followed up with a nice thank you card? I know no one ever much writes thank you notes anymore, but there is always email at least.
My niece and nephews are 19, 15, and 10. I haven't missed giving them a single birthday or Christmas gift. I don't think I've ever received a thank you note, email or text. The only time I think they've acknowledged the gifts is when I've asked them if they were received.
Sure, I would appreciate a thank you. But I continue to give them gifts because I love them and because when I give gifts, it is without strings or expectations.
This couple that's getting married is my husband's sister. I feel bad for not giving anything because I'll be attending the wedding, but my husband doesn't want to give anything. Even his own mom said not to give anything since they didn't give us anything and that just evens it out. My husband and I just eloped so we didn't actually have a wedding reception with guests. So in their eyes maybe they feel as though we don't deserve a gift because we didn't have a party. They didn't even say congrats when we got married which I find rude.
My niece and nephews are 19, 15, and 10. I haven't missed giving them a single birthday or Christmas gift. I don't think I've ever received a thank you note, email or text. The only time I think they've acknowledged the gifts is when I've asked them if they were received.
Sure, I would appreciate a thank you. But I continue to give them gifts because I love them and because when I give gifts, it is without strings or expectations.
This couple that's getting married is my husband's sister. I feel bad for not giving anything because I'll be attending the wedding, but my husband doesn't want to give anything. Even his own mom said not to give anything since they didn't give us anything and that just evens it out. My husband and I just eloped so we didn't actually have a wedding reception with guests. So in their eyes maybe they feel as though we don't deserve a gift because we didn't have a party. They didn't even say congrat when we got married which I find rude.
Well since the family tit-for-tat (childish and mean-spirited) opinion appears to rule why even bother going to the wedding? Simply send your regrets and I'm sure the couple will have a much nicer time without being surrounded by such resentful people. Or you could stand on your own two feet, ignore the churlishness and buy a little gift yourself.
This couple that's getting married is my husband's sister. I feel bad for not giving anything because I'll be attending the wedding, but my husband doesn't want to give anything. Even his own mom said not to give anything since they didn't give us anything and that just evens it out. My husband and I just eloped so we didn't actually have a wedding reception with guests. So in their eyes maybe they feel as though we don't deserve a gift because we didn't have a party. They didn't even say congrats when we got married which I find rude.
I've never given a gift for an elopement. The only times I've given a wedding gift is when I've actually been invited to the celebration.
This couple that's getting married is my husband's sister. I feel bad for not giving anything because I'll be attending the wedding, but my husband doesn't want to give anything. Even his own mom said not to give anything since they didn't give us anything and that just evens it out. My husband and I just eloped so we didn't actually have a wedding reception with guests. So in their eyes maybe they feel as though we don't deserve a gift because we didn't have a party. They didn't even say congrats when we got married which I find rude.
Important detail. Yes give them a gift and stop holding a grudge. Do you feel this way about everyone who wasn't invited to your wedding and didn't give you a gift?
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