do I have to go to this wedding? (father, husband, brother)
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A cousin who I have never spoken to for more than 3 minutes since I was 15 is getting married in August.
Her brother and her husband-to-be are involved in a weird religion that makes me feel uncomfortable. (the point being, I think the wedding and reception are going to be religious and stiff, rather than a 'fun' wedding)
The reception is off on some farm in Wisconsin, which is odd as neither my cousin nor her husband are from Wisconsin. (Her brother now lives in Madison, though)
I was going to go anyway because I really like her mom. I haven't spoken to her as much as I should but I guess I would consider her my favorite aunt.
However, my aunt just surprise visited this weekend for the 4th and my grandfather's birthday. So... I have already connected with her this summer. Probably more than what I will at the wedding, where I think I'll be lucky to chat with her at all.
Anyway. I don't really want to go to this wedding but I sort of feel like I should. What do you think?
There is absolutely nothing wrong in politely declining the invitation and no excuse need be given. If you received an RSVP card along with the invitation just send it back marked with zero attendance. If the invitation was less formal, just write a nice note saying, "thank you so much for the invitation to your wedding on (such and such a date at such and such a place). I won't be able to attend but wish you all the very best in your future together."
Maybe now's the time to start keeping better contact with your "favorite aunt". She'd probably love to hear more from you!
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Originally Posted by rzzz
A cousin who I have never spoken to for more than 3 minutes since I was 15 is getting married in August.
Her brother and her husband-to-be are involved in a weird religion that makes me feel uncomfortable. (the point being, I think the wedding and reception are going to be religious and stiff, rather than a 'fun' wedding)
The reception is off on some farm in Wisconsin, which is odd as neither my cousin nor her husband are from Wisconsin. (Her brother now lives in Madison, though)
I was going to go anyway because I really like her mom. I haven't spoken to her as much as I should but I guess I would consider her my favorite aunt.
However, my aunt just surprise visited this weekend for the 4th and my grandfather's birthday. So... I have already connected with her this summer. Probably more than what I will at the wedding, where I think I'll be lucky to chat with her at all.
Anyway. I don't really want to go to this wedding but I sort of feel like I should. What do you think?
I would decline respectfully. Just send a note or gift or something saying thanks but no thanks and good luck.
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