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I'm a guy. One of my best friends is a girl who I've known since we were both 4 (we're both in our 30s now.) She was like the sister I never had. She currently lives with her husband in another state, so I don't really talk with her that often, but we'll sometimes get together if she's back in the area or we'll occasionally text at times.
Anyhow, my mom and my friend's mom were good friends while we were growing up. As time went along, they started to drift apart. Now, my mom has realized some not-so-good things about my friend's family (especially the mom, but also my friend) and has distanced herself from them. The problem is that she's trying to influence me to do the same by giving me a hard time if I ever want to do anything with them. I know that family comes first, but I don't want to lose a friendship because my mom has (valid) negative feelings about them.
If your friend has not done anything that you cannot tolerate and you still want to be friends with her, then you will have to face the unpleasant task of telling your mom that.
I agree with Wmns4Life: I would stay friends with this family since they seem important to you and you aren't bothered by them. But don't shove it in your mom's face. If your mom brings it up, just brush it off. I mean, it's not like this "sister" lives near you and you see her all the time. Plus--and I say this as a woman--some women can be fickle. If there's the slightest chance of the two friends reconciling, you don't want to get stuck with poo on your shoes, if you know what I mean.
If the problem is your friend's mom then what does that have to do with her? Stay friends since you have limited contact anyway, don't bring it up to your mom.
I'm a guy. One of my best friends is a girl who I've known since we were both 4 (we're both in our 30s now.) She was like the sister I never had. She currently lives with her husband in another state, so I don't really talk with her that often, but we'll sometimes get together if she's back in the area or we'll occasionally text at times.
Anyhow, my mom and my friend's mom were good friends while we were growing up. As time went along, they started to drift apart. Now, my mom has realized some not-so-good things about my friend's family (especially the mom, but also my friend) and has distanced herself from them. The problem is that she's trying to influence me to do the same by giving me a hard time if I ever want to do anything with them. I know that family comes first, but I don't want to lose a friendship because my mom has (valid) negative feelings about them.
How should I proceed?
You politely but firmly put your mom in her place.
You are a grown man now and "mama" doesn't tell a grown man what to do or who to be friends with
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