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I assume that your fiancee is an adult woman-let her handle her business in her own way. It is up to her to establish limits with her classmates/colleagues. She will have to learn how to do this at school. at work and even with you. It's admirable that you want to rush in and help her out but in the long run that would be detrimental. You can't (and shouldn't) step in every time that you feel she needs to handle a situation differently. She either needs to tell people to call before a certain time or let the answering machine pick up.
Just because someone calls or texts you doesn't mean that you have to reply to them that very second.
I assume that your fiancee is an adult woman-let her handle her business in her own way. It is up to her to establish limits with her classmates/colleagues. She will have to learn how to do this at school. at work and even with you. It's admirable that you want to rush in and help her out but in the long run that would be detrimental. You can't (and shouldn't) step in every time that you feel she needs to handle a situation differently. She either needs to tell people to call before a certain time or let the answering machine pick up.
Just because someone calls or texts you doesn't mean that you have to reply to them that very second.
Ok, I understand what you mean. It's just so dang aggravating to be woken up at night. Her dad is in the hospital and so she thought it was the hospital calling with bad news.
Thank you for the well wishes. Her dad was admitted to the ICU about a week and a half ago for pneumonia that spread to his blood stream. Thank you for reminding me to not stress her out further. Sometimes I get so frustrated and bullheaded that I loose perspective. I will refrain from contacting him. However, if he calls again at midnight , God help his soul I don't answer the phone first lol.
Would you do the same thing to a co-worker of hers?
The guy obviously has problems, given that he is asking about his duties at midnight the night before it's due and calling people at midnight after they have told him not to. But your fiancee has to handle this.
If you don't like the way she is handling it, you have 2 choices: Talk to her, which you've done, or back off.
This is a growing and learning experience for her, too.
Thank you for the well wishes. Her dad was admitted to the ICU about a week and a half ago for pneumonia that spread to his blood stream. Thank you for reminding me to not stress her out further. Sometimes I get so frustrated and bullheaded that I loose perspective. I will refrain from contacting him. However, if he calls again at midnight , God help his soul I don't answer the phone first lol.
Well, you really don't belong on C-D if you're going to be all mature when people disagree with you. Good luck to you, your gf, her father and your child.
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