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So there is someone whom used to be around and I like bugging and talking to. But after we part, there is no way to meet unless we go out. I was just trying to be friend originally, but he ended up saying we can go to lunch or dinner. I thought lunch meant friends and dinner meant romance, so I picked lunch. But later I read lunch can also be considered a date?? I was confused and stressed and with the different setting in a restaurant (a kinda nice one), I just don't feel like it went very well and I didn't have as much to say. At the end, I feel like he's getting away by talking about his own plan for the afternoon, but before he left he offered a hug and still said "Let me know if you're up for xxx restaurant."
Just not sure how to take this. Is that the same as "I'll call" or "I'll see you" but they don't wanna see you because no specific time was stated? Or is that really an offer? I have been thinking maybe I should just forget about it all and don't even bother being friends! It's always just me bugging him anyway.
It means the ball is in your court. He has some interest in seeing you again, but not enough to put a lot of time into it. Perhaps your lack of enthusiasm at lunch has led him to believe that you are not that interested in him so he's leaving it up to you. He's not going to spend time pursuing some one that is not that interested in him.
Perhaps your lack of enthusiasm at lunch has led him to believe that you are not that interested in him so he's leaving it up to you. He's not going to spend time pursuing some one that is not that interested in him.
That is what I thought.
Never heard of "Lunch is not a date". Why would a certain meal be considered off limits for you, OP?
Even breakfast can be a date!
He was asking you out. However, you may have seemed so wishy-washy during lunch that he wasn't sure if you wanted to go out again. So he left the ball in your court
When he said " are you up to xxx restaurant" you could have replied, " Sure what's a good day and
time ? ".
Instead you wandered off into the sunset. Ball is still in your court. If you want to see him, respond soon before he writes you off as uninterested. Don't over think this.
Why don't you ask him? Sometimes our fears get the best of us and instead of being direct we go in a round about way (like asking an internet forum) what do to, how to figure something out.
So there is someone whom used to be around and I like bugging and talking to. But after we part, there is no way to meet unless we go out. I was just trying to be friend originally, but he ended up saying we can go to lunch or dinner. I thought lunch meant friends and dinner meant romance, so I picked lunch. But later I read lunch can also be considered a date?? I was confused and stressed and with the different setting in a restaurant (a kinda nice one), I just don't feel like it went very well and I didn't have as much to say. At the end, I feel like he's getting away by talking about his own plan for the afternoon, but before he left he offered a hug and still said "Let me know if you're up for xxx restaurant."
Just not sure how to take this. Is that the same as "I'll call" or "I'll see you" but they don't wanna see you because no specific time was stated? Or is that really an offer? I have been thinking maybe I should just forget about it all and don't even bother being friends! It's always just me bugging him anyway.
If you want to be friends....take him up on his open invitation. Otherwise, why dwell on it....It was what it was, an open ended friendly invitation to eat a meal together. Nothing to fall on your sword about.
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