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I know I should stop asking these questions about my SO mom, but, here goes. My SO mom is a boarderline Personality disorder and is very very difficult. My SO has just realized this and so I got him into counseling and can see he is learning to manage her better. I'm just curious if it is odd for a mother to climb in bed with her adult son? I guess this happened while he was visiting her for Christmas and it was so she could tell him how he should end the relationship with me It wasn't sexual certainly, but, it still seems odd to me. Am I the only one. My SO didn't think it was that strange, but, he was raised by her.....
Totally inappropriate, creepy, wrong, and just plain disgusting.
If he doesn't think it's strange, he has more problems than any woman should have to deal with in a relationship. I would seriously question my involvement with this guy if I were you. It's like you're dating Norman Bates.
gave me creepy chills. Even without sexual contact, its a sexual situation (not the fault of your SO at all!)...I mean unless ...nope...I can't figure out how it could be normal. Glad he is in therapy!
Wait, what? She got into bed with him to tell him to dump you, and it wasn't sexual? Who, pray tell, does she think a better partner for him would be? *shudder*
btw, make sure the therapist knows about that incident.
Definitely creepy. I can't imagine that ever happening to me with either of my parents. The last time I was in a bed with either of my parents I was really young and afraid of a thunderstorm.
Totally inappropriate, creepy, wrong, and just plain disgusting.
If he doesn't think it's strange, he has more problems than any woman should have to deal with in a relationship. I would seriously question my involvement with this guy if I were you. It's like you're dating Norman Bates.
Ick.
No no it isn't like that.....trust me Thank you for your opinion on the subject, I appreciate it.
Definitely creepy. I can't imagine that ever happening to me with either of my parents. The last time I was in a bed with either of my parents I was really young and afraid of a thunderstorm.
Wait, what? She got into bed with him to tell him to dump you, and it wasn't sexual? Who, pray tell, does she think a better partner for him would be? *shudder*
btw, make sure the therapist knows about that incident.
Well it was not sexual in my SO's mind that is for sure.....I have no idea about his mother though.
I don't think it's normal for a mother to climb into bed with her adult son but I do think it may be normal for a person with borderline personality disorder to have difficulty with boundaries. Your husband can't change her but he can be firm in setting and maintaining boundaries with her.
[quote=stormynh;37810624]Well it was not sexual in my SO's mind that is for sure.....I have no idea about his mother though.[/QUOTE] Well, that's kind of the point. Getting in bed with an adult child of the opposite sex isn't normal, and should be cause for concern. As if she couldn't tell him at anytime during the day, or after dinner, or any other time, except after he'd gone to bed. And she had to get into bed with him, in order to talk to him? Even weirder.
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It wasn't sexual certainly, but, it still seems odd to me. Am I the only one. My SO didn't think it was that strange, but, he was raised by her.....
Thank you for your opinion on the subject, I appreciate it.
