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Yeah, I agree. Why are you talking to me? Unless you're saying, "excuse me" or actually have a reason to talk with me (i.e. we are working together on something) then please leave me alone.
This professor did this to me on the elevator the other day just to talk about how hot it's going to be later on this week.
It's a learned skill for sure. I've learned, and I'm really good at it. I do it all day at work. And sometimes a random chat turns into something more and you actually learn something about a person and form a little bit of a bond. The HORROR.
Small talk is also usually what precedes more interesting talk in a relationship. It's hard to stand near someone at the water cooler and start talking about in depth topics. If you don't get through the "How 'bout this rain?" stuff, how will you make a connection that could turn into a friendship?
Some people also do like talking about the weather. My Mom's one of them. She finds meteorology quite interesting.
Depends on the reason. If it's just someone being social for a second in passing, I don't mind it. If it's small talk in the sense that someone is forcing an insipid conversation onto me that they don't even want to have just because silence makes them uncomfortable or some other form of irrational pressure, I hate it, so I'll keep it short and excuse myself.
I don't initiate small talk with the exception of kindness to strangers who seem like they might like a friendly word (e.g. a sad looking old bag lady standing out in the cold). Not even with coworkers/bosses. That's more of a metaphysical thing, though. I don't believe in speaking when you have nothing to say.
Oh man it drives me crazy when I am at work and end up in the elevator with someone who I never have conversations with and then you have to think about something to say to not appear rude. This is why I pretended to be sleep on the subway yesterday when I ran into a male coworker because I did not have the mental energy to be FAKE. lol
Am I the only one who hate talking about useless nonsense just to appear friendly?
I thought I was the only one who felt that way. On top of that people think they know me and want to engage me. If they're really trying to be nice, then, I'll smile at them and engage them for a second or two then I'll go on about my business.
at the grocery store in the check out line when the cashiers or the customers have a conversation with every customer that goes through the line causing people waiting in line to wait longer than necessary
some cashiers / customers are such blabber mouths and do too much unnecessary talking and hold up the lines
if you ever shop in other types of markets like the asian markets, they dont waste people's time having conversations with customers, they work much more quickly and efficiently.
I hate being interrogated by Hair stylists / barbershops
I made the mistake of answering his nosey questions about my life and he told everybody
pretty soon people I didnt even know knew about my personal matters because the stupid barbershop man gossiped and told all his customers with his small talk.
This!! Why a hairstylists believes it is necessary to do the "Twenty Questions" bit is beyond me. The first time you're with them it's the standard:
1) "So, what do you do?"
2) "What do you do for fun?"
3) "Do you have kids?"
Yadda, yadda, yadda.
My replies are short and non-revealing of personal information.
And the more they talk, the less attention they spend on the quality of the haircut!
Oh man it drives me crazy when I am at work and end up in the elevator with someone who I never have conversations with and then you have to think about something to say to not appear rude. This is why I pretended to be sleep on the subway yesterday when I ran into a male coworker because I did not have the mental energy to be FAKE. lol
Am I the only one who hate talking about useless nonsense just to appear friendly?
A single person looking for a relationship can rely o small talk to start a conversation with someone you'd like to get to know. Below is an example of what not to say.
TVSG (notices a cute girl in the produce section of the grocery store) "Excuse me, are these melons fresh?"
A single person looking for a relationship can rely o small talk to start a conversation with someone you'd like to get to know. Below is an example of what not to say.
TVSG (notices a cute girl in the produce section of the grocery store) "Excuse me, are these melons fresh?"
Cute girl: I don't know, did you feel them?
TVSG: No, but I'd like to.
Also, do not fondle the cucumbers.
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