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I personally like being around people who likes to go with the flow because I often feel they are relaxed, laid back and aren't likely to cause problems, it's one of my personal favorite qualities in a person.
I like easygoing people but not pushovers with no opinions of their own. It's not enjoyable to have someone always agree with you or do whatever you want to do. It can become stressful if the burden always falls to you to make plans and decisions because they're too laid back and "whatever".
If by "go with the flow" you mean a person who can handle and respond to anything that might come up, without freaking out or withdrawing, then yes, it's a fine quality. It's the same as being adaptable.
But if you mean by "go with the flow" that the person doesn't like to make plans or schedule anything ahead of time, commit to any future meeting or appointment, or reliably show up when they're expected or complete something when it's expected, then no, I dislike that immensely. Too often "laid back" means lazy and unproductive.
Too many people who are just lazy & irresponsible, who can't or won't plan ahead, make excuses for it and say they "just go with the flow," trying to turn it into something positive. The ones that are even worse like to describe themselves as "spontaneous." When I hear that, I'm gone.
Example 1 (BAD go-with-the-flow):
Let's get together on Saturday.
Okay.
So where should we meet? What time?
Oh, I just like to go with the flow.
Example 2 (BAD go-with-the-flow):
When can you get me that data?
Uh, I'm not sure, still working on it.
But the big report is due Thursday. Can you get me the data by Tuesday at noon?
I'm not sure. We'll see how it goes.
But I need a guarantee that it'll be ready by Tuesday.
Can't say. I just go with the flow.
Example 3 (GOOD go-with-the-flow):
Oh my god! It's raining and we're throwing that barbeque this afternoon! AGGGHHH!
It's okay, let's just go with the flow. We can set stuff up on the covered patio for the adults, and send all the kids to the basement. We'll figure it out and still have fun.
If by "go with the flow" you mean a person who can handle and respond to anything that might come up, without freaking out or withdrawing, then yes, it's a fine quality. It's the same as being adaptable.
But if you mean by "go with the flow" that the person doesn't like to make plans or schedule anything ahead of time, commit to any future meeting or appointment, or reliably show up when they're expected or complete something when it's expected, then no, I dislike that immensely. Too often "laid back" means lazy and unproductive.
Too many people who are just lazy & irresponsible, who can't or won't plan ahead, make excuses for it and say they "just go with the flow," trying to turn it into something positive. The ones that are even worse like to describe themselves as "spontaneous." When I hear that, I'm gone.
Agreed. I always like to ask "who sets the flow?".
I like easygoing people but not pushovers with no opinions of their own. It's not enjoyable to have someone always agree with you or do whatever you want to do. It can become stressful if the burden always falls to you to make plans and decisions because they're too laid back and "whatever".
Yes. Going with the flow can be a cover for an inability to own ones own space. This can result in one-sided relationships, which aren't fun.
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