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During the last few years, I've heard too much about "you must never say/do anything that may 'offend' someone." That, I think, is the heart of the problem when living around people who have an entirely different lifestyle than myself. So I'd like to know what other CD members think of this, so in case something similar happens again I'll be better prepared to deal with it.
I met an individual (same gender, same age group) and chatted a few times at the bus stop. One day when I was walking past her home, she invited me in. She said she was waiting to go to an appointment, asked me to wait with her. When the topic came up at the bus stop, I informed her I was not a drug user. However, when I went into her home she proceeded to take out a little tray with something on it, repeatedly put the substance into a pipe, and repeatedly hit off the pipe til the room was full of the smoke. I've smelled pot in the past, and that wasn't it, don't know whether it was synthetic marijuana or what, but I ended up sick as a dog and could barely make it home. The problem: I didn't know a "polite" way of excusing myself and leaving. What should I have said/done?
I'll add when I was a young adult and some of my friends used drugs, they at least had enough class to not use it around me and others who didn't go for that kinda thing.
During the last few years, I've heard too much about "you must never say/do anything that may 'offend' someone." That, I think, is the heart of the problem when living around people who have an entirely different lifestyle than myself. So I'd like to know what other CD members think of this, so in case something similar happens again I'll be better prepared to deal with it.
I met an individual (same gender, same age group) and chatted a few times at the bus stop. One day when I was walking past her home, she invited me in. She said she was waiting to go to an appointment, asked me to wait with her. When the topic came up at the bus stop, I informed her I was not a drug user. However, when I went into her home she proceeded to take out a little tray with something on it, repeatedly put the substance into a pipe, and repeatedly hit off the pipe til the room was full of the smoke. I've smelled pot in the past, and that wasn't it, don't know whether it was synthetic marijuana or what, but I ended up sick as a dog and could barely make it home. The problem: I didn't know a "polite" way of excusing myself and leaving. What should I have said/done?
I'll add when I was a young adult and some of my friends used drugs, they at least had enough class to not use it around me and others who didn't go for that kinda thing.
When a rude person does something rude and selfish (as the example you cited), the last thing I'd be concerned about is how to exit stage left. And you'd already told her you aren't into drugs.
Only you know what would feel comfortable for you to say in that type of situation.
What would I have done? I would have just said something to the effect that I had to leave. I may say that I had previously told her that drugs aren't my thing.
That is very rude and unusual. Assuming you work, inform her that you cant be near the stuff because you can fail a drug test and lose your job, then leave.
"I'm sorry to leave so quickly, but that smell is making me sick. I'll see you another time."
"..., I'm sensitive to strong scents..."
"Oh, dear me! Would you look at the time? (Check non-existent wrist watch, walk out the door.)
That is very rude and unusual. Assuming you work, inform her that you cant be near the stuff because you can fail a drug test and lose your job, then leave.
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Originally Posted by PinaCarlotta
"I'm sorry to leave so quickly, but that smell is making me sick. I'll see you another time."
"..., I'm sensitive to strong scents..."
"Oh, dear me! Would you look at the time? (Check non-existent wrist watch, walk out the door.)
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Originally Posted by WorldKlas
Just stand up stroll toward the door, quickly open it and say goodnight and leave.
No need to be polite in this situation and no need to make a lame excuse. Just say, "I am not comfortable being around drugs. I'm leaving". Plain and simple, no misunderstandings, no future repeats.
You don't need to be polite to the point of compromising your own health, beliefs, or comfort, especially for someone you don't even know. It is ok to say no!
It was probably crack, or meth. She seemed to remember enough not to offer you any, but I would've just simply waited outside, or left when she started taking her hits.
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