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Who says i'm maxed out socially? I just want there to be a plan in place, or else it's not a genuine effort to connect. One couple i'm talking about had made a plan to be in our area a week in advance, and then calls us at the last minute; that's not a genuine effort.
Also, couples with kids falsely believe an impromptu visit would be enjoyable for a childless couple. It isn't. I don't want to spontaneously spend the day with a toddler, however, I will go buy a gift and come eat cake for a planned birthday. No issues here, just preferences.
Agreed. I seriously plan for an entire weekend day alone to recharge and a day for the friends. Ive really enforced it now that we have an infant. For three straight weekends we had family over non stop and it KILLED me. I need quiet time to recharge and gather my sanity.
Yep. I need a plan before getting together in order to psyche myself up or else I will get drained easily. Especially when there are kids involved. You need to mentally prepare.
Then don't go and just tell them you are staying home to lounge around the house.
If you feel guilty and go anyway that is your choice and that will probably end in resentment for this couple.
We have no problem declining invitations whether they be short notice or weeks in advance, sometimes we just don't want to go for no particular reason.
This is why I tend to make friends with fellow introverts: they instinctively understand how a last minute social event can be very jarring. A few hours notice... maybe, maybe. But spontaneous events or the dreaded pop-in... I spaz every time.
Last edited by Ginge McFantaPants; 06-09-2015 at 12:33 PM..
This is why I tend to make friends with fellow introverts: they instinctively understand how a last minute social event can be very jarring. A few hours notice... maybe. But spontaneous events or the dreaded pop-in... I spaz every time.
Yep. Mental preparation is needed for some of us.
For the extroverts here, imagine if your boss called you in to work Saturday morning when you planned on going camping. Although there is purpose and fulfillment to socializing, some of us consider it work and need to prepare. The more prep, the less drain.
This is something that's almost never understood. Just look at some of the responses here. They are bordering on hostile.
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