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The fact that you give about 10 different excuses ranging from not having anything to wear to your child not being able to travel to family issues makes it sound pretty bad. You can do what you want if your husband doesn't need your support. But when you "give your regrets" pick a single reasonable excuse otherwise you sound like a child trying to get out of something you just don't wanna do.
Exactly, sounds like a lot of excuses to not go. As they saying goes about excuses "If your mother had been a man she would have been your father".
OP just doesn't want to go. So as you said pick one reasonable excuse if you don't go.
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Originally Posted by cupper3
This is not about you, it is about your husband and his family. What is HIS thoughts?
If he is at all hesitant, don't push it, and just go. Many of us swallow our thoughts and pride for family events where people we really don't care for will also be there.
Be kind, be nonconfrontational, and know it is just a temporary situation.
Absolutely. Making a situation like this all about your self is well, selfish. Many families have people they don't get along with, but they put their differences aside for the day of the funeral or do their best to ignore each other for the day.
So tired of the "all about me" mentality so prevalent these days.
Exactly, sounds like a lot of excuses to not go. As they saying goes about excuses "If your mother had been a man she would have been your father".
I learned that differently. I learned "if a queen had balls, she'd be king" and "if a frog had wings, he wouldn't bump his behind."
Bottom line is OP is complaining and being petulant about what is ultimately going to be a few days out of her life. But I sense that if she did go, she'd do something else my mother used to admonish us not to do: "put a puss on."
This whole charade is an exercise in passive-aggressiveness. Not exactly the stuff of a healthy marriage.
Fair enough, but the OP doesn't deserve being dumped on.
I went back and read her other posts - just 12. Boy is there a lot going on there.
I don't think they can stay at a hotel alone. They would need help with all kinds of things seems like.
There is nothing wrong with her not attending. I'm sure the rest of the family, especially the SIL understands. There seems to be a reason she has POA.
I went back and read her other posts - just 12. Boy is there a lot going on there.
I don't think they can stay at a hotel alone. They would need help with all kinds of things seems like.
There is nothing wrong with her not attending. I'm sure the rest of the family, especially the SIL understands. There seems to be a reason she has POA.
I learned that differently. I learned "if a queen had balls, she'd be king" and "if a frog had wings, he wouldn't bump his behind."
Bottom line is OP is complaining and being petulant about what is ultimately going to be a few days out of her life. But I sense that if she did go, she'd do something else my mother used to admonish us not to do: "put a puss on."
This whole charade is an exercise in passive-aggressiveness. Not exactly the stuff of a healthy marriage.
LOL, I like your sayings better.
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