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It was indeed selfish, also misguided, for me to have had kids.
Had I known then how incredibly damaged I am, I would not have had them.
I cop to it being selfish because it was done to make myself feel better, as in normal; I did NOT consider how ill equipped I was, emotionally, to nurture.
No excuses made for my ignorance; it should've been apparent to me.
True, I could not "help" my crappy skills as I was so damaged but that is not justification; only explanation.
I realized it far too late, and do feel terrible about it. But that doesn't help them any.
It was indeed selfish, also misguided, for me to have had kids.
Had I known then how incredibly damaged I am, I would not have had them.
I cop to it being selfish because it was done to make myself feel better, as in normal; I did NOT consider how ill equipped I was, emotionally, to nurture.
No excuses made for my ignorance; it should've been apparent to me.
True, I could not "help" my crappy skills as I was so damaged but that is not justification; only explanation.
I realized it far too late, and do feel terrible about it. But that doesn't help them any.
Overitall, I don't think you were selfish you just didn't know any better and just wanted to love someone.
Correct, tottiesanna, but being so damaged I cannot feel/give/receive love so it was a doomed endeavor from the beginning and now 4 kids (grown now) are the product of that.
I take responsibility for that and so many many do not; they blame others, or make excuses.
I have zero patience for that type. I was a victim as a child but after age 18, that stopped and everything from that point is on me.
It was indeed selfish, also misguided, for me to have had kids.
Had I known then how incredibly damaged I am, I would not have had them.
I cop to it being selfish because it was done to make myself feel better, as in normal; I did NOT consider how ill equipped I was, emotionally, to nurture.
No excuses made for my ignorance; it should've been apparent to me.
True, I could not "help" my crappy skills as I was so damaged but that is not justification; only explanation.
I realized it far too late, and do feel terrible about it. But that doesn't help them any.
I have a friend who says if she knew then what she knows now she'd never have had any - she does love her kids though (and they're mostly young adults).
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